To be seeing him..

[loveleopard]

People might guess who I am from previous posts.
Basically I've been with DP 10 years, house, 2 kids - youngest being 3 months old.
I had hyperemesis and it was awful, and DP just didn't seem to care. He said he thought I was making myself worse etc. I then had PND and he was good with that getting me through it.
But he's just changed so much. He gets angry easily, doesn't sleep in bed, he keeps asking me if I'll have sex with another man so he can watch.
Someone I know (I met him through his mum she's older than me, he's my age) has admired me for a while. He'd send the odd message but never anything out of line. He'd always say he wanted to be there for me when I told him about how I was being treated.
DP says he wants to buy me out of the house. I've been at my mums with the 2 kids since Christmas. But then in the next sentence he says he wants to talk? I gave up work to be a FTM, he pays for everything I own.

I've been meeting up (well twice) with the guy I mentioned. We've held hands and briefly kissed.
He made me feel amazing. I can't remember the last time someone held me hand or kissed me without it wanting to lead to sex. He says he wants to support me even if we don't end up being anything romantic. I can't stop thinking about him. After losing my sister last year, a difficult pregnancy, PND, constant arguments and abuse.. it just feels nice to be in the company of someone who thinks so much of me.

I'm playing with fire.. what do you think?

I think you need to talk to your GP and arrange some counselling ASAP.

I think you got your hands full with your current situation especially a baby to be jumping into a new relationship after being in an abusive one.

Please be careful. You have a huge amount going on - your life sounds like it's on the brink of very significant turmoil and disruption. Entering into a new romantic adventure might feel good for taking your mind off things, but risks adding very serious additional complications. Not to mention, you are in a very vulnerable state right now.

If someone really cares about you then if you ask them to step back while you sort out your affairs, they will respect that. You need your focus to be on either recovering your marriage, or finding an amicable solution for the sake of your kids, and then finding a way of supporting yourself (and them).

This is a man who knows you are vulnerable and is pursuing you with the bs line it doesnt matter if it turns romantic. Youre being played by someone who targeted you. Back off him. Deal with your h first.

You have a 3 month old and your current relationship is breaking down. Step away for now and concentrate on you and your kids. If he's so great he will still be there for you a year from now. If not, there are plenty of other good men who will want to kiss you without it necessarily leading to sex.

@TracyMosby

This is a man who knows you are vulnerable and is pursuing you with the bs line it doesnt matter if it turns romantic. Youre being played by someone who targeted you. Back off him. Deal with your h first.

This was my thought too. A red flag.

If I was in your position, with all that going on in my life, I wouldn’t trust my own judgment about a new relationship. The thing about him supporting you totally sounds like a line though.

I'm not buying this one. Reads too much like a story in take a shit break