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How to deal with a colleague

6 replies

Mummysgogetter · 31/01/2022 19:19

We go to lunch together. Both of us are “figure conscious” in that we eat what we need, don’t overeat and exercise to try and stay slim. She has started slimming world so can eat all green foods one day and all red foods another but not to mix the two. I think green means pasta etc and red is meats etc.

She always points out “look at all I am eating compared to you” in front of other people and I feel embarrassed like she is making me look anorexic (for reference I was eating a mugshot).
We went out for a meal the other week and half way through the dessert I wasn’t enjoying it so I stopped eating it and she got really pissed off with me and said “how come you’re not eating the rest of your dessert?” She said it with a really pissed off tone and all our other colleagues looked round at what I’d left.
If we attend a Buffett at work she will look what I’ve got on my plate and make a comment “is that all you’re eating??” Or she’ll say “there’s carrots and dips over there because I know your watching your weight”
I just feel gobsmacked and really embarrassed when she says these comments and dread it. The thing is it’s not like I’m underweight or anything - I’m 10/12 and she is slimmer than me.
Am I just being too sensitive ? I just hate everyone thinking I’m anorexic and/or commenting on my food intake

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AmandaHoldensLips · 31/01/2022 19:29

How bizarre. Tell her to concentrate on her own plate rather than worrying about what's on yours.

BornIn78 · 31/01/2022 19:32

Stop going for lunch and out for meals with her.

Benjaminsniddlegrass · 31/01/2022 19:35

Not really

Benjaminsniddlegrass · 31/01/2022 19:37

Oops. Not really on topic but red & green days aren't a thing anymore on slimming world.

Anyway I'd ignore and stop having lunch with her if she's making you feel uncomfortable!

Brideandprejudice · 31/01/2022 19:41

Why do you keep dining with her?

What's a mugshot?

Natty13 · 31/01/2022 19:41

I have had this same exact problem but from an overweight colleague who knows I had an ED as a teenager.

"Hey Jenny you might not realise but you make a lot of comments about me at meal times/what I am eating and portion size etc. I really don't like this. It makes me feel self conscious and embarrassed so can you please not?"

If she does it again "Jenny i asked you not to make those sorts of comments if you don't stop I'm just not going to be around you at mealtimes"

I cant eat if I feel self conscious so it ended up with me not eating around my friend and then the comments about how "I never see you eat any more started"

Luckily I have no problem being direct and just calmly pointed out the multiple texts I had sent telling her I wouldn't be sharing meals with her any more.

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