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To want to give up and seperate.

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Lottiebugz22 · 31/01/2022 10:11

My partner does nothing. I have 2 children a 3 year old and a 4 month old. I am up multiple times in the night right now as my baby is teething and my 3 year old has been unsettled with sleeping for around a year now. At 3am this morning I was holding my teething baby whilst trying to settle my 3 year old back to sleep while my partner slept on the sofa. He isn't going to work (self employed) and universal credit has told him he's no longer gainfully self employed and therefore needs to find a job. I have had multiple discussions with him regarding mental health. I have supported him and continue to support him. I feel like I'm drowning. I'm sleep deprived and I'm exhausted before I've even started the day. He will not see a doctor. I just feel like calling it a day now. I am becoming depressed myself in this situation and I try to hide it from my children but I had to hold back tears last night.

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Lovewineandchocs · 31/01/2022 10:14

Awww I'm so sorry you're going through this. Obviously as strangers on the Internet we don't know the full story-but it seems you're at the end of your tether and he is doing nothing to help either you or himself.

Do you have any family support or help from friends? Sounds like you may be better off single, he appears to add nothing to your life.

Chely · 31/01/2022 10:20

May be worth seeking some couples counselling.

Winter2020 · 31/01/2022 10:56

Tell him he goes to see the doctor and gets on medication for his depression or he loses his family. If he will treat his depression the rest can follow.

BlackMansGift · 12/11/2022 20:44

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bingotime · 12/11/2022 21:14

Someone has to function. If he's dragging you down with him you need to prioritise the children and leave him.

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