I have Ds 11 with my ex. His dad has seen him but always been inconsistent, letting him down, seeing a couple hours once every month or two. His dad has a partner and they have a young child. I know stepmoms get a lot of hate but I do think she is somewhat responsible for the lack of relationship between Ds and his dad, he seen him more before she came along. But it's not really her fault. His dad should see him regardless.
He seen him at Christmas but hadn't heard from again until this weekend. He hasn't even texted or rang to see how Ds is. He only lives 5 minutes away.
Anyway, this morning his dad rang up to ask if he can have him, doesn't seem too bad.
But then tells me that his partner and their younger child has covid and he is negative so can see Ds. Indeed, if he is negative he could but I'd rather he didn't because of that. Covid has hit our house twice since December, I'm done with it. Outbreaks in their class. I told him he could have it but it's too soon to tell. Plus we already had plans, nothing is ever arranged in advance. It's always like 'can I come see him right now' kinda thing.
it would be different if my ex had him regularly and they had covid in the house but it's been over a month since last contact, so why now?
It's got me thinking. Does his dad just want to see him because his partner and kid are stuck home with covid? Because they are unavailable to do anything.
or is it because she's very controlling about DS's contact with 'her man' and now she's got covid he's free to do as he pleases?
My poor boy has never had any consistency with his dad. He hardly knows his toddler age brother as even when his dad does see him he never goes to see his brother. Ds always asks me why he isn't allowed in his dads house. His dads partner says she doesn't want Ds around as disrupts her little ones routine. I get routine BUT she chose to have a child with a man who had an older kid! They want go out as the 4 of them either. They live nearby and Ds never gets invited on their days out. I don't expect him to go out all the time with them but sometimes would be nice for DS. when my ex does see Ds, he always tells Ds about all the fun stuff he has done with his younger son. It's a bizarre thing. Ds holds all his emotion over it until he gets home with me and I get the brunt of it.
My ex is the biggest let down ever.
I'm sick of if.
It would be easier if my son didn't see his dad at all but I don't want to be the bad guy.
This is just a small snippet of all the issues we've had!