Ok so this is probably a bit petty in the grand scheme of life's problems, but it's annoying me and I want to know if I'm being unreasonable here.
DP and I take turns to cook, I'd say we probably have an almost 50:50 split in terms of who does it on a given evening. We also have a 9 month old baby so whoever isn't cooking is always occupied with the baby. We have an agreement that whoever didn't cook cleans the kitchen after tea, and the person who cooks takes over with the baby and does bath time.
However, here's the AIBU. My partner is the messiest cook in the world. I'm not exaggerating. It's like an absolute bomb site in the kitchen afterwards. I have no idea how he creates so much mess. I tend to clean up as I go along so there's little mess for him to sort, and the dishes/ pans I've used are rinsed as a minimum ready to go into the dishwasher. I wipe down any food spills on tops etc. He does none of this. There's food all over the tops, condiments and spices etc left out (takes 2 seconds to put them back in the cupboard), nothing is rinsed... Tonight he made homemade burgers - they were lovely but I've just had the pleasure of the absolute carnage he left behind to clean up while he baths the baby.
His take on it is: well I cooked, so you sort the kitchen. I do the same for you after you've cooked. But my point is: I leave hardly any mess for him to clean because I clean and tidy as I cook, so he has an easier job!
Do I need to get a grip and just clean the kitchen without complaining, or should he make more of an effort to clean as he goes?!
I mean, we're not on the brink of divorce over this but... I'm curious to know if I'm being unreasonable here!