To ask how important initial attraction is?

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I'm recently single. One of my old colleagues' son has admired me from afar for a while. I get on really well with his mum (I'm 33 and she's 60) He asked me on a date so I went.
I can't say the initial attraction is there. He doesn't have the usual dress sense I would go for, he dresses smart like a flannel shirt, a long coat and shoes, he isn't ugly by any means but he is probably a little shorter than me. He's recently moved back in with his mum and they have a lot of pets and he had a kind of "household with pets" smell about him haha!
He's lovely though. He was so kind and sweet. I told him my daughters dad hasn't sent any money and she needs new babygrows (just in conversation) and he left £20 in the car and won't take it back. He says he just wants me and the kids happy.

I don't know.. can it work if at first sight you don't think "wow"?

It can. When I first met DH, he made me feel safe and he was fun and interesting to talk to. We 'clicked'. But looks-wise, he wasn't what I thought I'd go for. The physical attraction quickly grew based on our mental attraction. Now we are old our looks are fading but we are still attracted to each other mentally and physically.

Yes, when I first met my husband he wasn’t my usual type and wasn’t sure that the attraction was there - 6 years later we are married with children and have great chemistry.

Sometimes it grows - sometimes it doesn’t. Worth giving it a go imo