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To think he's been lying

13 replies

Stars343 · 30/01/2022 12:36

My boyfriends brother has 2 teenager daughters in our town. He got both women pregnant and now lives with his wife and a 3rd child away from here. My boyfriends brother stopped bothering with these 2 children. When we first met he had both mothers on his Facebook and spoke to them. Could easily be uncle duty on the surface.

When we had been together a couple of months I remember his brother ex coming up. My boyfriend said his niece had been taken off her as she was an alcoholic and the child was living with her nan. She messaged him one night saying why didn't you say you had a lady friend. He got really stressy about it with me and said she was getting on his nerves and then he passed me his phone and said delete her please. I remember at the time we had a bicker because he was snappy about her. A week later his ex girlfriend text him and asked why these 2 ex in laws were on his Facebook. He kept the other one on but told me she had once been inappropriate in a message about having her child with the wrong brother.

I know of this woman as we have a friend in common. This morning he's removed her from his Facebook too. I'm confused to what's suddenly caused this one to be taken off too. He speaks to her if he sees her. He gives her child a tenner if he sees them.

I'm not going to ask. But I am thinking what an earth has been talking to her about to have fallen out today.

Is he doing this because he's been flirting with them to get one over on his brother? Surely not.

OP posts:
Jelly0naplate · 30/01/2022 12:42

This isn't anything to do with you. Best course of action is to stay out of it and not get involved.

Flowersandbread · 30/01/2022 12:45

If you're not going to ask then you need to stop going through everyone's friends lists.

7eleven · 30/01/2022 12:47

Oh my Lord. Find something else to do.

AlDanvers · 30/01/2022 12:51

Why are you and his ex girlfriend going through his friends list?

Fairylightsongs · 30/01/2022 12:53

I think this might be badly written. I think she means it’s her boyfriend who is flirting with these women and removing them from face book

Op are you sure the kids are his brothers?

Sparklesocks · 30/01/2022 13:25

Absolutely none of your business. Keep your beak out and find other ways to entertain yourself that aren’t inserting yourself into other people’s lives.

T00Ts · 30/01/2022 15:13

I’m sorry I couldn’t follow that. You’d boyfriend is in touch with his brother’s exes who are the two mothers of the teenage kids he doesn’t see? Is that right?

KeyboardCat · 30/01/2022 15:17

If anyone understood the arc here you're a brighter person than me....

HTH1 · 30/01/2022 15:54

@Fairylightsongs

I think this might be badly written. I think she means it’s her boyfriend who is flirting with these women and removing them from face book

Op are you sure the kids are his brothers?

This. Sounds like they may be your BF’s kids.
Cryalot2 · 30/01/2022 16:07

Sorry I'm lost.
Just whose kids are they?

Whatsonmymindgrapes · 30/01/2022 16:56

What?

MooSakah · 30/01/2022 17:14

I think I need a diagram sorry. But if you don't trust him just leave him now.

5128gap · 30/01/2022 17:19

Either way, your BF sounds very caught up in it, and less than mature in managing it, which I would find off putting. Personally I can't stand all this living through fb with various characters causing issues, usually over next to nothing, and everyone they ever met joining in. Pointless waste of time that helps no one. Unless you want to live your life in the midst of a bunch of people making drama over nothing, falling in and out every 5 minutes and generally acting like kids, I'd distance myself pretty fast.

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