To want DC to play in their room for an hour when they get up at 6am?

[LyraSilvertinsel]

DP gets up with them every day at about 6-6.30am.
I don't think either of us should be up at that time and if they want to get up so early they should play in their room next door to ours for a while till a more reasonable hour (they have plenty of toys and books in there).
DP doesn't like the idea of them being on their own and insists on getting up with them, even though he's knackered. I refuse to get up so early (I'm not a morning person at all) and when he's away on work trips they're happy to potter in their room till 7.
The problem is DP's so tired (but loves having that play time in the morning as he's never home in the evening before their bedtime) and he keeps complaining that he has to get up so early.
But it's his choice to get up with them.
AIBU or is he?

He's BU.

You stick to your guns. I did and now my kids don't wake me til about ten at the weekend. It's fantastic for all of us.

what age are they?
it sounds to me like dp should carry on as he is but go to bed earlier. He enjoys it and so do they - sounds like a nice time of day for them to spend some time together

I am presuming if they get up early, they probably go to bed early, so you can get some time to yourself in the evening and get an early night

10?
DS2 was up till 10.30 last night (had a sleep in the car then wasn't tired at bedtime). What time was he up this morning? 6 as usual.

They're 5.5 and 3.5. They go to bed at 8 but I'm trying to make it earlier.

Yes it's not an early bedtime is it, considering they get up at 6

do you think they are getting enough sleep or do they seem tired? personally I would go for letting them play / read books etc at the end of the day when you are all tired, and for your dp to spend time with them in the morning when they are fresher. If he won't see them otherwise, it seems a shame to change things

I just wish he'd stop complaining about it when it's his choice.

Well, it's kind of his choice. He is unsure that leaving them to play is the safest thing to do and I would feel the same. I got up much earlier than I wanted to the other day as I didn't feel that ds should be left to have the run of the house unsupervised. Arguably my choice but alternatimm]vely, just being the only one taking responsibility. [h

why doesn't he go to bed earlier if he is tired from getting up at 6?

He's usually asleep by 11.
should |i tell him to stop complaining?
btw Beanspout, they don't have the run of the house, they stay in their (safe) room when DP is away.

F&Z, he also gets resentful that he's always the one to get up with them while I stay in bed but, again, it's his choice.

well I would be knackered if I went to sleep at 11 and then got up and 6

I would start encouraging him to go up earlier, I think - if you say "it's 10 pm now, don't you want to go up or you'll be tired again tomorrow?"

then it is his choice. If he moans the next day you can remind him of it

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lyramine were coming downstairs and using the TV by that age, so I think your dh is BU.seriously you are lucky they are stayiing i their rooms

And this morning dd1 got up at 9.30, dd2 and I were asleep when my mum phnoned at 10.30!!! But it is holiday and they are going to bed late. I am still making sure they have at least 10 hour sleep (they are 6 and 8 btw)

If he says he loves that playtime in the morning but complaining about getting up so early, what is it he wants? I'm not really understanding this.
And bed at 11pm and up at 6-6:30am doesn't sound that bad to be honest. Especially if they stay in their room until 7 other days.

Lyra, perhaps try and bring bedtime forward, with my dd it made her get up later than she did previously.

both mine (3.2yo and 14months) used to bed at 7.30-8pm and get up between half 5 and 6! now they bed around 6pm and get up at 7.30-8am. makes no sense, but worked for us!

and they are in a much better mood all the time.

ds now only has one nap too, so early bedtime works well!

Not read all messages but my DC ar 15, 10 and 6. They now wake up at whatever time (the 15 year old - girl - more afternoon, than morning!) but they occupy themselves until they are hungry (the youngest loves hot porridge). This morning, it was 10:55 before I was woken up by my youngest saying "mummy, I am hungry, can I have some breakfast).

Bcause your children are so young, it will get better in the future.

I can remember being 20 or so (and still living at home), going out clubbing on a Saturday night and getting up in time on Sunday for the roast (about 3 pm)!.

It will get better.

My DCs are exactly the same age as yours and go to bed at 8pm. They often wake about 6 to 6.30am and then they play in their rooms for an hour or so until we get up. During the week DH gets up about 6.30 At the weekend we sleep later.

I do not see the problem with them playing alone, nothing can happen to them, we have locks on the windows and socket covers. Often DS (3.5) will take a book and get DD (5.5) to "read" to him. They lie in her bed and she tells him stories about our dog.

If he wants to get up with them then ok, but he should stop girning about it.

Unless they are locked in their room, they have the run of the house. Just because they have played nicely up until now, it doesn't mean they are aren't going to decide to try something new one morning...!

I'm going to try and get them to stay in their room in the morning, whatever DP thinks. We've had enough years of too little sleep. Life would be so much easier with more sleep.