To ask what NICE things partners/relations/friends/neighbours/colleagues have done recently?

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We see a lot of ghastly dilemmas on MN, and obviously they trigger a lot of discussion and hugely helpful sharing of experience and wisdom.

But I'd love to know about the really nice things too. The kind, loving, thoughtful, helpful, supportive things our other halves and children, parents and in laws, neighbours, colleagues and friends do for us.

My DP learned how to create a spreadsheet that made doing my tax return SO much easier, because he knows how much it frightens me.

My DM is going to pay for something significant for the house that we can't afford.

My neighbour referred a nice new client to me.

This is the NICE thread. Please add! xx

DH cleaned the floor today (I know, it’s his floor too, so why shouldn’t he? Still very nice though.) Also brought me tea in bed this morning (& most mornings.)

DD helped me make lunch, too x

I'm really enjoying reading these.

My eldest DD made and painted a card for my DH and me, to tell us how much she loves us and appreciates everything we do for her.

My DM sourced some inhalers for me that she knew I needed.

My DH brought me a cup of tea nice and early today as we needed to leave for the day and he knows I love waking up slowly in bed at the weekend

Today DP came to meet me at the door of an antiques centre with an umbrella (it was fine when I went in 90 minutes earlier
He also booked a surprise meal out as I was feeling a bit flat with the January blues
DD has been checking in with me more often as she knows I’m a bit low
Even the cat seems to know I need kitty cuddles

I took dfs to cricket practice and it is 23 miles away for 2 hours so I pop into a Witherspoon's and get a pub meal whilst I wait every Sunday afternoon. When I get home DH has spent entire afternoon and evening cleaning and tidying our bedroom, whilst I have been watching TV. and has now just offered me a Chinese so I need not cook.

Nurse in A&E today carefully examined the leg of my DC's cuddly toy and then wrapped the 'injured' leg up in a bandage. DC (age 3) was thrilled

I suffered a Bereavement recently. My mum. Its really shown me how wonderful people can be.

The evening it happened I phone a colleague from another office to tell him I had to cancel the following days meeting. Within 10 mins all the senior staff at the office had text me to offer their condolences and offer their support. Flowers arrived the next morning and they call and check in every few days.

Dp has been amazing and showed unwavering support to me, dad and my kids. Just seeming to know the right thing to do. Even 8.5 weeks later he is there when I cry, has no issues when I need space. Just perfect.

In the minutes after mum died, I called my best friend. She arrived 20 mins later. Helped me tell my dd who was meant to be finishing college and staying at mums that night. She checks in on my dad, has been here when I needed her. She came and found me in asda car park at 7am the day before Christmas eve as I had done the food shop, was sat sobbing in my car and called her. She took care of me and dd on he day of the funeral. She was amazing. Dp stayed home with ds who didn't want to come, which made me feel better. I didn't have to worry about him.

Work have been great. Never once mentioned unpaid time off. Just let me do what I needed.

One of my Aunts (one of mum's sisters) has been amazing and always in touch. Her husband has been wonderful too.

Dad got me a locket with a photo of mum in with a special quote in the back. So thoughtful.

Ds (10) and dd (18) have been the kindest most wonderful children. Seem to be wise beyond their years. Knows when I need a hug. Knows when I need to laugh.

And yesterday, I said I fancied some Dr Pepper. In the evening dp nipped out. Went to 3 shops to track some down for me. Sounds stupid. But I was really touched that he did that for me.

All in all I am devastated. But, I have seen such kindness given to me, its renewed my faith in humanity a bit.

My brother made me a paella for my birthday dinner today and packed us some to take home for DH as he had to work today to save me cooking. My lovely SIL bought me a beautiful orchid and lovely asoeps shower wash and I felt really spoilt.

Also same 3 year old regularly tells me they love me - unprompted! - and says I'm their best friend

We have covid and our neighbour and one of our friends have dropped off gifts and activities for the kids

I'm in the middle of a divorce. So many people, including brand new colleagues who have not met me at my most stable, have let me cry and rant without judgement.
People have sent cards, books and gifts to let me know I am loved. Friends have sent texts checking in that I'm OK.
My son's godmother has him over ever Tuesday so I can go to councelling.
My mum paid for my car repairs as she knows money is tight and came and looked after the children and I when we got covid- obviously catching it herself.
I may no longer have my ex husband's heart, but my word I am loved my many others. I do truely understand how blessed I am.

@AlDanvers
Sorry for your loss
Looks like you've got good support around you.

I have started chemotherapy and its making feel very poorly, so I have been having a lot of pj days. I've been feeling a bit guilty about not making more of an effort. Next

Sorry! Next thing I know, he's bought me some silk pyjamas so I can still be glamorous, even with no hair (and one boob)! My nephew has given me a pair of cashmere socks because my feet are cold and next door gave me a beautiful, furry dressing gown to keep me warm. I'm so lucky!

@Confusedmeanderings I’m currently undergoing chemo too, it’s utterly rubbish isn’t it? I hope your treatment goes well.

Since my cancer diagnosis I’ve experienced so much kindness from friends and family…so off the top of my head, my mum has bought me extra soft lounge suits for comfort and a towelling dressing gown to make it easier to dry myself after baths and hair washes (having a picc line makes these things very stressful!). My dad takes me food shopping every week and I have to battle with him to stop him paying every week! He gets us a strawberry tart as a treat to have together 🥰 My best friend has been a constant support, and has presented me with a list of options for a day out together on Friday, depending on how well I feel. Another friend sent me a ‘chemo care pack’ from Etsy. I’ve had lots of flowers from others. My sister takes me to chemo every week then picks up any shopping for me while I’m there. My wonderful fella has been a rock and has done everything he can for me, even though we don’t live together… the list of that he’s done for me is endless. My youngest son bought me a teapot so I can make hot drinks more easily, and my eldest has taken out a Spotify family subscription so I can listen to podcasts. My neighbour organises socially distanced get togethers in her log cabin in her garden so I don’t get too isloated. My niece has bought me two gorgeous vintage babycham glasses 🥰 My uni lecturers keep in touch with me and get me involved with projects even though I’ve had to suspend my studies. This is before all the dozens of messages and texts I get every week from people asking how I am and if I need anything.

It’s utterly rubbish having cancer but I’m blessed with the amount of support I have, and all of these wonderful people are making a huge difference to my life ❤️ and I’m so grateful for each and every one of them.

I hurt my back this week and DH has been working all weekend so my nephew has come and walked the dog because I couldn’t manage him, then my MIL turned up this afternoon with a big bunch of flowers & chocolate for me.

My partner got up at 6am to give me a lift to work even though he’d rather eat his own bollocks than get up before 10am

He buys me flowers just because he knows I love fresh flowers

My son got into trouble just before Christmas and then went missing
He sat up all night with me,worried about him and just kept me together until he got in touch to say he was ok

He went to the shop to buy me lunch because I didn’t have time this morning

He’s a good egg

[quote TwoBigNoisyBoys]@Confusedmeanderings I’m currently undergoing chemo too, it’s utterly rubbish isn’t it? I hope your treatment goes well.

Since my cancer diagnosis I’ve experienced so much kindness from friends and family…so off the top of my head, my mum has bought me extra soft lounge suits for comfort and a towelling dressing gown to make it easier to dry myself after baths and hair washes (having a picc line makes these things very stressful!). My dad takes me food shopping every week and I have to battle with him to stop him paying every week! He gets us a strawberry tart as a treat to have together 🥰 My best friend has been a constant support, and has presented me with a list of options for a day out together on Friday, depending on how well I feel. Another friend sent me a ‘chemo care pack’ from Etsy. I’ve had lots of flowers from others. My sister takes me to chemo every week then picks up any shopping for me while I’m there. My wonderful fella has been a rock and has done everything he can for me, even though we don’t live together… the list of that he’s done for me is endless. My youngest son bought me a teapot so I can make hot drinks more easily, and my eldest has taken out a Spotify family subscription so I can listen to podcasts. My neighbour organises socially distanced get togethers in her log cabin in her garden so I don’t get too isloated. My niece has bought me two gorgeous vintage babycham glasses 🥰 My uni lecturers keep in touch with me and get me involved with projects even though I’ve had to suspend my studies. This is before all the dozens of messages and texts I get every week from people asking how I am and if I need anything.

It’s utterly rubbish having cancer but I’m blessed with the amount of support I have, and all of these wonderful people are making a huge difference to my life ❤️ and I’m so grateful for each and every one of them.[/quote]
Reading that made me quite tearful. Your mum and dad sound so lovely. I really miss mine.

Ive recently given birth to my first child and have been pretty unwell since delivery.
My boss sent me a voucher for meals to be delivered to make sure DH and I were both eating well as things had been very difficult.
The voouher basically kept us fed in dinners for a good few weeks!

DH has been fab since DD has been born.
Ive not been up to doing alot except sitting under a newborn, feeding, changing and cuddling whilst feeling utterly dreadful.
He has basically taken care of everything house related to help me recover.
He has driven us to god only knows how many appointments as well and had to wait in the car because of hospital rules or has taken care of DD at home whilst I brave it alone.
Now things are more settled I want to try and do more for him so he can finally focus more on his job and getting some down time after a hard day.

@Flutterby8, your DH and your boss sound lovely.

@TwoBigNoisyBoys I totally get this! I have received so much love and support and it definitely helps. Good luck with the rest of your chemo.

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@LuluBlakey1 I’m sorry for making you cry! I’m very lucky, I know. Sending love to you x

@Confusedmeanderings it’s so lovely that something nice has come out of our awful situations l, isn’t it? I find that trying to focus on the things I’m grateful for helps when I’m feeling particularly low.

I’d like to resurrect this thread, please, it’s so uplifting. Think we should try to post something nice each that someone has done each week (I hope you all get at least one weekly nice deed.) I had a shitty argument with DH, but DD unexpectedly washed up after tea and I had a lovely bunch of flowers from some friends & another friend popped in to see how I was, so it ended really nicely. Such an awful world at the moment, that the kindness of others means such a lot.

@Nomorefuckstogive what a nice idea! The couple who live in the house opposite gave me a bunch of daffodils today because I've been unwell and she thought they might help to cheer me up.