I have been in a relationship for 6 years and we have a toddler DD. I’ve had many relationships over the years, none ffof which have lasted that long, and we’re not married. We committed to raising our child together (whether in a LTR or not) before she was born.
So this is my question. My partner does more of the childcare (I earn twice as much and work long hours). He is a kind, decent man and we get on fine. We have sex and that is fine too.
I read lots of threads on here about abusive men and my relationship is nowhere near that. But I wonder if there is something else out there. I knew I was keen to have a child and I’m so delighted we have one, but I have never thought that this relationship must be forever. The only negative about it is his drinking - when he goes out drinking he often turns up two or three hours later than he said he would, although he’s a benign enough drunk.
So this is my AIBU. Should I be grateful and happy for what I have? A kind, thoughtful partner even though we are not really that close in a “deep” way and our sex life is fine but not amazing? Or is it worth seeking something else?
YABU - you have so much already, don’t be greedy
YANBU - it is okay to leave this relationship to look for something “more”
Thanks in advance for your advice.