to expect people not to feed my baby son without asking in a cafe?

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not sure what to think & sure she didn;t mean to harm, but during a coffee with a friend who was feeding her 14 month old ginger biscuits, she lent over and shoved a biscuit into the mouth of my 10 mth old, saying to try a biscuit. baby didn;t want it and i said please don't- i was peeling a banana for the baby at the time- he was on my knee. she knows i don;t like him given sweets and stuff so not sure where it came from. what would you do in this situation, is it usual?

It's amazing, isn't it? I was out with ds the other day and one of dd's friend's mums gave ds[11 months at the time] a chocolate biscuit. I said no thanks but found myself being questioned for the rest of the day. She also tried to slip him some chips and said I was cruel for letting him drink water not juice. It was all done in a jokey way but I know she thought I was some cruel hippy.

One of my friends asked permission to give my dd some crisps when she was about 2. I said that he could try and also predicted that she'd lick them once and return them to him (this was at a time when she was quite cautious about food since she did this with all new food).

To my joy, she did exactly that, much to his horror . That's my girl.

My SIL gave DD some cava at her christening too (just a fingerful) but DD was only 3 months at the time! I was absolutely livid particularly as she hadn't asked first and just thought it was funny... Needless to say SIL was not left alone with DD for an instant over Christmas in case she decided that honey or peanut butter was a good idea for a 5 month old.

I think YA definitely NBU and suggest having a word to your friend. I think I should have done to my SIL even though it was in front of everyone because I don't want her near DD now (PFB and all that!)

yes, i think its so personal giving a baby food with your fingers.. its not really that it was biscuit just the doing it. lol at hippy mother, i also only give water, and the same friend said did he want any juice from her baby's bottle right then. i did look a bit horrified

TBH, I'm a bit of a pain with this , my xSIL was soo precious about her DD getting dirty that she wasn't allowed a chocolate finger at a kids birthday party.

I have to confess I took her DD and said conspiratorially 'Shall we go and get some chocolate whilst mummy isn't looking' and winked at xSIL.

XSIL had fed her chocolate before though and was just not wanting her to get choc on her party dress, I knew this and wouldn't have fed her it if it was against her wishes in another way, iyswim.

As for putting a biscuit in a ten month old babies mouth surely offering it to her hand would've been enough if she was going to give her it? I would've asked in that position, not just given it.