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AIBU to not know if I've done the right thing?

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tuesdayschild17 · 29/01/2022 15:37

I ended things with my partner of several years the other evening. It was a build up over time of issues about emotional availability and support. He has moved out and both of us are struggling.

My DD is 3 and lives with me. He has known her almost all her life and lived with us for the last year (her own father only sees her occasionally and has never been around).

The issues in our relationship were never over DD and he was wonderful with her and she absolutely adored him. She is already asking where he is and will struggle massively losing all the love and support he gave her.

I feel utterly heartbroken and completely selfish. Our relationship had slowly eroded my self-esteem and happiness but the thought of damaging my DD is terrifying. Should I have stayed together with him and if not how do I move on from someone I still feel totally in love with? I'm doing my best to be a happy mum for DD but it feels so hard.

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HebeMumsnet · 30/01/2022 12:03

Morning, TuesdaysChild,

We're sorry to hear things are tough right now. We just thought we'd bump your thread for you in hopes someone is about today who might be able to offer support or advice.

PinkEll · 30/01/2022 14:35

Also a bump for you OP.
It's hard now but it will get easier in time, you ended things for the right reasons. Your feelings are important too- your daughter will be ok. Especially if her mummy is happier x

Ileflottante · 30/01/2022 14:46

I’m confused. He’s your partner of ‘several’ years but he’s not her father as he’s known her almost all of his life?

How long have you and this partner been together?

Your daughter is three, at the risk of being blunt, she’ll forget him soon. Really soon. Don’t get back into a miserable relationship because a three year old mentioned someone a few times. That would be the wrong thing for both you and her.

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