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AIBU for still being upset about a hurtful comment nearly 2 years ago?

14 replies

Teadrinker11 · 29/01/2022 14:21

This happened nearly 2 years ago and I still can't let it go. We were all at home with our parents for lockdown, sister, myself and 2 brothers. One morning while the 4 of us were up my sister and I got into an argument over the most petty thing. Next thing while we're arguing in the kitchen she tells me "Nobody wants you here anyway everyone wishes you were dead." It stung. One brother stood there laughing egging me on to fight her and I walked off, upset. When I told my mum about it sister immediately twisted her story and pretended she said something else. Fast forward two years later, I still feel so upset about the comment and can't move on. Last year there was something else awful as well, we were having a family dinner and she looked at me right across the table smiling - "it's a pity we can't dispose of you and throw you off the edge." In front of everyone else. I don't know which stung more, that comment was completely unprovoked, I wasn't engaging with her and next thing she says that in front of our family smirking, cool as a cucumber. I can't move on from these comments and feel like I'm the one in the wrong for still being upset. AIBU for still being upset and not being able to move on?

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user68396930 · 29/01/2022 14:22

I think she sounds a bit sadistic and I would be worried about her mental state than anything else.

How old are you ?

MishWoking · 29/01/2022 14:23

She sounds awful. I would be hurt too. Geez, what’s her problem. Maybe she’s holding onto some past hurt? Could you have done something in the past that has hurt her and now she’s retaliating? Seems odd to be coming out of nowhere…

Octomore · 29/01/2022 14:24

How old are you? Not being early, genuine question.

"Telling your mum" implies you are very young?

phishy · 29/01/2022 14:25

She sounds like an utter bitch. Why aren’t you telling her to fuck off?

Octomore · 29/01/2022 14:25

^ sarky, not early

GaiusHelenMohiam · 29/01/2022 14:25

Are you teenagers?

Me and my sister have said the most vile things like that to each other when we were young and horrible. Now we don’t even argue.

phishy · 29/01/2022 14:26

@Octomore

How old are you? Not being early, genuine question.

"Telling your mum" implies you are very young?

Why wouldn’t she tell her mum? Confused those are awful things.

OP sounds like an adult to me.

Octomore · 29/01/2022 14:28

Well the OP sounds young to me, and if they are very young that's different to if the comments are coming from a 30 year old.

iklboo · 29/01/2022 14:29

Next time tell just to fuck off and roll your eyes. She's doing it to get a reaction.

ClemDanFango · 29/01/2022 14:32

She’s like a fucking psycho. Cut her off.

Whatinthelord · 29/01/2022 14:35

What the fuck.
How old are you both?

I’d cut all contact with her as much as possible. What did your parents do/say in response to her comment at the table.

She’s sounds unstable…..unless she’s 13 in which case it’s still unkind but slightly more understadable as part of an immature reaction.

WonderfulYou · 29/01/2022 15:10

Just move out as soon as you can so you don’t have to put up with it.

It could be her sense of humour or she could have deeper issues, either way don’t engage.

PinkSyCo · 29/01/2022 15:17

Bloody hell how old are you lot? Do you all still live at home? If so I feel sorry for your poor mum!

Dubuem · 29/01/2022 15:25

Your sister sounds extremely spoiled and entitled. Is there a big age difference between you? I'm also wondering why the rest of the family think her inappropriate comments are a source of humour. There is something far deeper going on here.

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