Does anyone else have a problem with this?
I live on my own most of the time so covid has been quite challenging, trying to keep myself going. But there's been a lot of hours to fill and at times I've had to dig deep to not feel too isolated and lonely. I'm late 50s and have quite a lot of good friends but its not always easy to make a date to see them as they have other commitments. But what I've noticed recently is how picky and fussy a couple of my friends are. Take this week.
Met up with Daisy (50) earlier in the week. We had timed tickets to go into a stately home which I'd bought. When we got there she had to go and get a cup of tea - we'd arranged to meet at that time as she was having her hair done and wanted to get herself some lunch first. So we had to check into the reception that it would be okay to come back later. I pointed out a lovely cafe right near by. But no she'd seen another one a bit further away that she thought would be nice. So we go there. Only there are no tables free and she decides it doesn't look nice after all so we go back to the first tea shop I suggested. She has to pick which table. We go into the stately home and afterwards decide to go to a bar for a further chat. We go into the bar and she makes us move table 3 times because she thinks there's a nicer table, but then she decides she doesn't like the new table so we end up back at the first table we tried. She complains about her drink.
A few days days later I meet Mary (she's late 50s) for some Friday night drinks. I had to book a table even though we are meeting early. When she arrives she comments how quiet it is and how lacking in atmosphere. Then some younger women come in and are seated next to us. They start having a lively chat so Mary asks if we can move to one of the large booths at the back of the bar which is empty. The waiter says sorry no - the big booths are booked for bigger groups and will be filled shortly. She moans about not being able to move and about the poncey drinks and the waiters (even though they are very attentive and friendly). Within 20 minutes the place is full and noisy. I say we can leave if she wants and go to a nearby pub. No she says, we might as well stay here, the atmosphere is actually quite buzzy. Then within half an hour she suggests leaving and we go to a pub instead.
With both Daisy and Mary they are keen to go out and do something but always leave it to me to suggest where to go and make arrangements. Then each time its this palaver. I'm very easy going - when I go out I'm just there to enjoy the company and catch up so I just don't make a fuss. I want to enjoy myself. Sure I complain sometimes, but not nearly as much as these friends. I know I'm moaning now but I just realised that these are the only times I've had company this week and its a bit wearing! Anyone else have this? Is it age or attitude?