Just to give some background information, I see my partner every 2-3 weeks with my own money and I had to ask my dad permission for going to see her an hour away by train. Last month after boxing day shit kicked off because I dared to buy the train ticket as I had already made plans and my mum demanded that I ask my dad or I can’t go. Bearing in mind that I have never really been out much in the past before august, so I asked him and he got pissed off at me asking why I expect him to say yes all the time and why my partner (they know her as a friend and then started questioning why she was so important that i had to see her all the time, i wanted to be with her because she was struggling with her mental health) and my parents knew this and said that friends are irrelevant and why is she so important that I go against my family. I told them they were so selfish and cruel and i had a go at them back since he snatched my phone with full force from my hand and it hurt my hand and he made a comment that I don’t pay for it when I bloody do, my mum ended up telling him to give me it back. I said i have a train to catch and I’m just gonna leave anyway, they ending up tightening the locks and hiding the keys so mine wouldn’t even work. I escaped the next day and ran away for 3 nights, i ignored their calls and told my mother that one of the biggest reasons was because of her abuse of me as a child and me being sexually assaulted as a child by another woman, and how him snatching my phone out of my hand and them two hiding the keys made me feel trapped and how my only fucking comfort is my partner who they see as a “friend.” I am 20 next month. Her response was to sum it up “well I’ve apologised for it, but seems like you still have hatred towards me and you said there was no point as the woman had already left so I couldn’t pursue it further” then said it sounds like i just wanted to move out and told me to take care. SHE had the audacity to threaten to the leave the home. I’ve started university and now have my student maintenance and grant. I moved out to my grandmothers and i still feel so trapped as they have access to this house.
They claim I’m only allowed to visit people locally but I’m getting completely sick of them now. I hate them for controlling my life, I can’t even have sleepovers. I am sick of asking for permission about their pathetic “safety concerns.”