AIBU...playdates

[JR84]

Evening all...my 8 year old son has had the same best friend since starting school. I am aquainted with his mum, but tend to have more to do with his dad as he is a stahd. We have often met up at the park etc and are reasonably friendly. When I have met his wife, I find her a bit disingenuios and often catch her looking me up and down, even though I try to be friendly. My OH always jokes that he fancies me (the feeling is definitely not mutual btw...) and I suppose if I really look for it he can be quite heavy on the eye contact etc and sometimes has given the impression that he may like me, although I certainly haven't responded. Anyways, I have had his son round to ours to play on several occasions, yet the invitation is never reciprocated. His son has had numerous other children round to play recently (some who he doesn't even like), leaving my son feeling upset as to why he is never asked round to play. I'm really not sure what is going on, but it makes me feel upset as I feel like it is being done deliberately for some reason, yet I've never tried to do anything other than be nice?!

Can I give you another perspective on this. My DH is a stay at home dad - he is utterly useless at arranging play dates etc I always do it so I organise it with the mums I know and have met at birthday parties and are friendly with. It may be as simple as that. I would start inviting other kids round. I certainly wouldn't be asking why he never got an invite. Because I work I just don't get the opportunity to organise many play dates at all. I am sure there are mums wondering why I haven't invited their kids back but weekends are sacred and I get back late during the week.

Op, it might be a wider issue you’re not conscious of.. are they embarrassed about their home compared to your lifestyle perhaps? Hence park meet ups all the time.. and yes I do think it’s possible that the mum might have some weird jealousy / intimidation issue.. petiole have all sort of insecurities in life that can play out oddly! .. I’d pull back on the meet-ups and wider yoir sons friendships xx

I also find it incredibly rude when parents don't invite your child back after a play date (or several). My DD is in a small group of friends at school. They've all been over for plays at various times. And surprise surprise, the lovely friendly parents have hosted in return but the miserable ones haven't. They also moan about everything in the class WhatsApp and cannot bring themselves to say hi during school drop off.
(Like every aspect of life - you meet some people who are nice and some people who are miserable. You got unlucky with his parents this time. Hopefully he'll make some new friends).
Some people are dicks.

@About10thusername maybe they are just busy rather than miserable? Or maybe they are miserable because they are busy?

[quote trunktoes]@About10thusername maybe they are just busy rather than miserable? Or maybe they are miserable because they are busy?[/quote]
Nah, you're too kind. I guess you might be right. But also, some people are just miserable.