Slightly freaked out!

[ChristmasC]

Ok, don't really know what my AIBU is, but just had weird experience!

So - for context, I am 43, married for 11 years, with DH 16 years, have 2 DC (10 and 8), have a post kids belly, and definitely look my age - I look like an average school mum at the school gates - though because it's Friday and I'm knackered - I'd say I look like a slightly haggered and tired, school mum - definitely NOT giving off any 'im young and single chat me up' vibes!

So I'm in Tesco just now, looking for fish fingers for children's dinner and this boy (and I mean 'boy' - kind of spotty maybe 17 year old) who works in the store (had uniform on, was stacking shelves) started chatting me up!! 😲

At first I thought I must have got it wrong, but he persisted with chat up lines related to wine getting better with age, how I have a nice top on (super creepy, I felt weirded out) and other lines like that. He was following me round the store.

I was desperate to get out the shop, I forgot half my shopping!! (At least I remembered the fish fingers!)

I haven't been chatted up for years and years! I wasn't giving off any vibes, and this boy was an employee!?

What the hec? I'm so weirded out!!! I'm old enough to be this boys mother 😲😲

I expect he has a fantasy about older women like a gazillion percent of young men. I wouldn’t overthink it.

Oh gross :( 😝

That would stress me out so much.

Far from being flattered, I think you should make a complaint about him.

A friend once told me that a 21 one year old had been having a casual thing with someone who was in their late 40's. The idea being that she had a place of her own so no issues from parents and she had been fairly recently single. I guess it was a fling with him and for her to feel needed.

Always nice though to feel attractive. Personally if it makes you feel uncomfortable I would say I'm flattered but happily married or just mention about your husband in a conversation usually makes people stop.

Hollow talk - yes I'm thinking about it! It's one of those small Tesco stores though Id be surprised if the other staff hadn't heard some of it! Definitely not flattered! Just creeped out (and slightly annoyed I've now left half the shopping behind in a bid to escape!!!)

It could have been a dare with some of his colleagues.

I, too, wouldn't be flattered and would have to say something to the store management. Comments, following you around, essentially harassing you, whether he really did mean it or not, is horrible.

I'd also complain.

The point he got to following you around making you feel uncomfortable he was behaving inappropriately at a whole new level.

That's actually creepy behaviour and he needs to know it's not ok before he takes it a step too far.

Following you around the store? Sounds like a dare or wind up.

I very much doubt it was a dare - lots of younger people are attracted to people older than themselves.

Unless you felt uncomfortable I wouldn’t see the sense in complaining and getting him the sack, he’s a young guy who doesn’t know how to ask someone out properly.

@DrManhattan

Following you around the store? Sounds like a dare or wind up.

I'd take this to the store manager asap.

Age 50, I was very scarily stalked (police involvement) . When they finally tracked him down it was a 19 yr old and he already had a history of violence to women.

Is this going to turn into another thread about pick up artists?

When my dd once dumped her fit professional dancer bf he asked her if he could have my number!!