Does anyone else do this? Replaying conversations

[Enjoyingwinter]

I'm a bit of an introvert and although I do really enjoy others company, it does drain me.

After work or meeting up with a friend, or bumping into someone I've not seen for a long time, I reply conversations, but the worst thing is that I worry that I might have thought out loud.

So just say for example I'd noticed something that you wouldn't say to them. Could be anything such as noticing someone's hair was messy that day, or their clothes weren't flattering, a passing thought that you'd never say out loud. I keep replaying conversations thinking that I hope that I did not say that out loud.

Yes I do all the time and it can make me really stressed .

Yes all the time. It’s exhausting.

Yep I do it all the time too. Social anxiety and being introverted make me be like it - it’s annoying .

Rumination or ruminating might describe what’s going on for you?

You’re possibly getting stuck in worry or fear about how you’re perceived, or people pleasing?

It’s tiring! Would recommend some counselling/psychotherapy if you want to understand what’s going on and how to process your feelings (so they resolve instead of getting stuck whirring round your mind) and feel less drained around people.

Yes, but I'm autistic. I also rehearse conversations before they happen, or practice making certain facial expressions. If I don't, people think I'm a soulless robot.

I do replay and rehearse conversions.
I’m completely NT.
It’s just how I process.
I don’t worry about stuff I know I’ve not said.
But I do sometimes worry about stuff I did.

I do this, even if I knew my conversation was boring or just about the weather etc
It is exhausting , but I've no idea how to stop it
It's much worse now I'm older too

I'm sure I've got worse as I've got older.

It is definitely worrying about how I'm perceived and how I'm coming across. I wish that I could care less.

It's always worrying that I've slipped up said something rude.

Yep, not only do I constantly go over conversations, I too “rehearse” future conversations. I can’t help it and it’s exhausting. I even wake in the night to obsess about what I’m going to say either at upcoming meetings or social events, but also emails I am about to send. It’s impossible to turn off and I purposely minimise meeting with/talking to people to try to reduce it.

Yep I seriously limit my social interactions.

It's too exhausting, meeting someone for coffee wipes me out for the rest of the day. It's a shame because I really do enjoy company.

There are a very small number of people that I'm 100% comfortable with.

Yes, I sometimes do that. I think it's due to anxiety.

I do it as well. It’s very tiring. I can think something has gone well but after analysing it endlessly, decide it was a disaster!

Yes, it’s exhausting. I avoid a lot of social situations because I don’t want the endless replaying and worrying afterwards. It’s miserable.