Night out guilt

[Shnugglemumof2]

My baby is 11 months old also have a daughter whose 10
I'm working 3 days a week , one 10 hour shift and two smaller shifts .
My mam currently looks after the children which she loves when I am in work .
My aibu is my husband wants me to go on a night out with him tomorrow.

I finish work at 6 and I'm back in at 8 the next day .
I just feel so guilty for leaving my kids . I will be putting them to bed before I go and my mother will come over .
I just have major guilt issues with leaving them .
Aibu to feel this guilt and not go out?
I do want to go but the thought of them waking when I'm not here makes me not want to .
I will be a 15 minute walk away .
Thank you and hope someone can relate .

You have nothing to feel guilty about. When my DS was that age me and DH went away for a full weekend and we both worked full time!

Enjoy your night out. It does everyone the world of good to have some down time.

And I mean when DS was 11 months old we went away.....

Parenthood is a long haul. If you don't have a break it can crush you.

It's important to spend time as a couple too.

Go and enjoy.

Thanks for your reply.

It's really a little unhealthy to feel 'guilt' about heaving your DC when they will be cared for a loving grandmother ... it's good to encourage a bond between your DC and their DGM.

Please go out and enjoy yourself, don't be a martyr to your DC, model a good relationship with your DH to your DDs.

I left my DS when he was 10 days old, my DM babysat, my DH and I had a pleasant couple of hours out and I was only a few minutes away if I was needed urgently (I wasn't).

They have a lovely bond my mother has them whilst I work . You are all right though

Honestly you win no prizes for not ever being away from your children, you’ll actually lose all sanity being with them all the time.

Go and enjoy yourself

My two are younger than yours and we go out once a week. Why would I feel guilty about that? They're in bed asleep.

Go!

Have you never left your 10 year old DD for an evening?

Have you never left your 10 year old

Yes I have she Is old enough to understand where I am and also enjoys the time with her dgm

Don’t feel guilty. Spending time together as a couple can strengthen your marriage and is a fantastic thing for your family. Kids will be well cared for and baby is unlikely to even know you went

The baby will be asleep and not know whether you are there or not.

🙄 just go. The kids won’t care

Christ, I have never thought twice about going out since my kid was born. In fact, I’m leaving him for a jolly this weekend. He’s happy, he’s safe, I work hard to provide for him and I need some time to not be at work and/or a mother.