To leave a job after 3 weeks

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I was a student nurse in my second year. I have deferred for 9 months for some space to consider whether it is right for me after several incidents and some tears.

I have a HR background in higher ed. I have taken a perm job with local authority WFH FT since leaving nursing. The role is a payroll post...I didn't realise how payroll until I started, on the first day. The team are a bit disjointed with each other, although my line manager seems lovely. The woman I've working with is putting a lot of effort into training me, I don't think she likes doing it, but she does try. Yesterday she refered to a teacher as "disgusting" for leaving after 7 months because of cost and effort of on boarding.

Day before starting I had an interview for HR post in Russell group uni. I have been offered that post on a FTC for 6 months. This would take me up to uni return of I go back.

The HR role is better for me and developing skills again since leaving HR to do nursing. But do I leave a perm post for fixed term, leave wfh to hybrid and risk being ostracized by the team? I know its quite poor form.

Why would you be concerned about being ostracised by the team if you’re leaving?

@WomanStanleyWoman...I just hate the idea of it all being awkward for a month before I leave!

But, I'm a single parent, the pay is £1200 annual increase in other post, and I need to do what's right for us.

I'm mainly stuck because current post is very flexible and wfh full time so childrens clubs are much easier to navigate.

You gotta do whats right for you at the end of the day mate.

Yes leave and don't give it another thought.

I’m not sure they’d even bother making you work your notice after three weeks, to be honest.

A friend of mine resigned from a job after six weeks because she knew early on it wasn’t working and wouldn’t work. Her boss was angry and said she hadn’t even given it a chance. She said ‘To look at it another way, I could soldier on for six months knowing it’s never going to work, you wouldn’t be getting the best out of me and you’d end up losing me anyway having invested even more in training etc.’ I’m paraphrasing, but maybe this is how to explain it your boss?

100% leave. The other role sounds perfect in every way and you're actually doing your current employer a favour by leaving while you're still learning rather than them having to redo the whole process in 6 months time.

I think they’d just let you go straight away. Being ostracised by team won’t be a problem. Do it ASAP and stop wasting the woman’s time who is putting the effort into training you so they can contact the next best person at interview to see if they’re still interested and available and hopefully save them the arseache of having to advertise and interview all over again.

On paper (and I realise it’s only a very brief OP), you do sound a bit flighty though. HR background, then tried nursing, not sure it’s for you, jibbed it off in year 2, got a full time permanent payroll post, and now you want to quit that after 3 weeks and go back into HR for a bit, after which you might go back to nursing again.

Probably better to leave this 3 week stint of work off your CV.

Thank you for your comments. These things are never easy and I dislike letting people down.

I do feel I am quite aloof rn, I shouldn't have left my HR role to take up nursing during a pandemic, and then feel shocked at how chaotic the programme and placements have been. Since I started to think about leaving nursing back in October I've been obsessed with trying to figure out what to do with a career. To the point where I've not slept properly for weeks. I know people come and go with jobs all the time, it is what it is, but I overthink everything, and then get nothing done

If I were you I think I'd want to work out if the commuting and wraparound care costs would be more that the salary increase.

I think the 6 months contract might be a bit of a red herring - if you go back to nursing it doesn't matter if you leave the payroll job to do it or if you finish a fixed term contract. But if you don't go back then you'll be job hunting again in 6 months.

Is the training / development available in the 6 month job significant?

Is the payroll experience a good development for your career? A lot of smaller companies have HR and payroll rolled into one role.

Do whatever you want and don't feel bad!! Maybe you can approach your current boss with this offer and negotiate yourself a raise? Anyways do what's best for YOU!

Of course you mustn't stay in a job if you don't like it. When I realised after a couple of months of changing roles at my workplace, that I spent every Sunday evening in tears over having to go to work the next day, I knew it was time to get a new job (I was 19, I had been in the company for just over a year, but changed my role and did not like the new role, it was soul destroyingly boring!). I never regretted that decision. You have to do what is right for you and your family, I am pretty sure that your trainer at your present company would leave if it suited her.

Just one thing though, will you have to pay someone else to take your children to their clubs, and if one of them is off sick have you someone who can stay at home with them? I know that thousands of parents have had these problems over the years, but you don't have those particular problems at the moment, so at the very least some of that extra £1200 might get swallowed up in the extra child care?

As long as you have considered all the different aspects, then do what is going to be best for you and your family. Good luck OP, I am sure you will make the right decision for you.

@OhFuckBloodyHell

If I were you I think I'd want to work out if the commuting and wraparound care costs would be more that the salary increase.

I think the 6 months contract might be a bit of a red herring - if you go back to nursing it doesn't matter if you leave the payroll job to do it or if you finish a fixed term contract. But if you don't go back then you'll be job hunting again in 6 months.

Is the training / development available in the 6 month job significant?

Is the payroll experience a good development for your career? A lot of smaller companies have HR and payroll rolled into one role.

These were all my thoughts too.

I wouldn't worry about the bad feelings of leaving but I would worry about all of the above.

Stay in your permanent job. You don’t sound all that interested in nursing anyway. I’d stay safe for now and keep looking around for more suitable and permanent opportunities to arise.