Family posting pics of baby on social media

[Bel1991]

Hi there

Wasn't really sure where to post this!

I've been texting cute images of our 12 week old baby to family- to let share the moments and join in our excitement of our first baby!

It was brought to my attention that one of our family members then reshaped the imagine on their Facebook ( my partner and I both choose not to use any social media).
I'm really uncomfortable with it and think I need to let them know that we don't approve of this.

I'm also really awkward about conversations like this as I don't want to offend but think it's more important to get my message across.

Just wondering people's thoughts and if anyone has experienced anything similar and how they approached the topic.

Thanks!

Just keep it light and pleasant but firm.

"Heard that you'd posted a few of the pics we sent you online. Really glad you're enjoying showing off little X to your friends but we have actually decided to keep him/her off the internet for now. Our fault for not being clear, but if you could please make sure no more go online. Thanks so much for understanding. Can't wait to see you soon x"

Our son is adopted and we do allow photos on social media. We just tell people that is something we have chosen.

Make it clear you don't want photos of baby on social media and stock to your guns

One of our AC decided they did not want images of their child on SM. They let us all know that from the start and we have all understood their reasoning and complied. If anything has slipped on by accident then the poster has been asked to remove the image and they have complied. Just let people know and explain your reasons if you want to or if they're interested.

Hi OP, we had to speak to DHs sibling and ask them not to post DC on social media as we didn't want them on there and felt uncomfortable with ir. They are normally chilled out and approachable but they took it badly and make a big deal ever since of taking photos of all the grandchildren but telling DC they have to stay out of it because they aren't allowed be on social media. It's 7 years later and still they are frosty to us at times about the subject

It’s a very normal thing for excited family members to share pictures of new babies on Facebook.

If you don’t want them to share them in future, either don’t send them any more, or tell them not to share them when you send them.

With regard to the ones that are already up, let it go. A few people will glance at them briefly, like them out of politeness, instantly forget them and never look at them again. Babies, whilst cute, are not distinguishable nor memorable except to their immediate families.

When you say reshape, do you mean they edited the photos as well?
Or was that a typo (I hope)?

Don’t be afraid to politely ask them to take it down as you’d rather not have photos of your child online - that’s perfectly OK. When my brother and his wife had their little boy, I excitedly, but thoughtlessly shared a pic of him with my Facebook friends. My brother texted me and asked if I could take it down - the reason he gave at the time was that his wife had been working with a children’s charity and one of their campaigns was children’s online safety. But in actuality, they didn’t have to give a reason - he’s their child. I remember feeling a little embarrassed that I’d potentially annoyed them, but I apologised and removed it and that was the end of the matter. They probably just didn’t think you’d mind.

@Freecuthbert

When you say reshape, do you mean they edited the photos as well? Or was that a typo (I hope)?

That was a typo!

Thanks everyone for your ideas around this!
I will have the conversation, and it might be uncomfortable at first but I'm sure they'll understand.

In hindsight I wish I had put out a little thing to evryone to say our thoughts about social media at the start- it just wasn't something we had really considered because it's never really on my mind!