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Wwyd - holiday or no?

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holidaybol · 26/01/2022 09:51

We booked a trip to St Lucia in mid February. Unfortunately DS2 has caught pneumonia and has been hospitalised. He's much better now and we are hoping to be able to go home soon.

I'm not keen to go on our holiday as I'm worried about him getting poorly again out there and I'm not so sure the hospitals are as good as here.

DH wants us to go as we've paid quite a bit for it, but I'm just not sure. We can try to reschedule and I will also call travel insurance to see what we can claim back.

Any other thoughts?

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zafferana · 26/01/2022 09:53

Have you spoken to your DS's doctor? I think a medical opinion would be very valuable in helping you to make your decision.

Sirzy · 26/01/2022 09:55

How old is he?

I would talk to his doctor to get his opinion and then talk to the insurance company to ensure anything related to it is covered if you do go.

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holidaybol · 26/01/2022 09:58

We haven't yet, but will ask the dr when they come on their rounds later, thank you, that's a good idea.

We've been really looking forward to this holiday so I can understand DH wanting to go ahead.

I was with DS2 in hospital while he was very poorly, it's traumatised me a little bit as he was very very ill Sad

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holidaybol · 26/01/2022 09:59

DS is just under 2 and good idea about the insurance as well to check if we do go , everything is covered

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zafferana · 26/01/2022 10:05

I understand your trauma - my DS was hospitalised with a very serious illness at 18 months it was awful. Both he and I were traumatised for a while afterwards.

Just keep focused on the fact that the most important thing (only important thing really), is your DS's health. I can understand your DH not wanting to miss out on the holiday, but if you won't enjoy it for worrying about your DS, it won't be the relaxing break you're hoping for. But talk to the doctor and take what s/he says seriously. If they seem reluctant to give you the green light, I'd cancel. You'll never forgive yourself if anything bad happens after ignoring a doctor's advice.

Santahasjoinedww · 26/01/2022 10:09

Imo grab a chance of normal for you all and go!!
As a dc my ds was in /of hospital for 10 months. Normality is a necessity op.. I was grateful to be home and see wallpaper instead of white walls!! A holiday would have been amazing!

LIZS · 26/01/2022 10:10

They may suggest not flying for a while depending on his recovery. If he has had steroids he may also be immuno suppressed.

Electriq · 26/01/2022 10:13

If his doctor says he is well enough to go, I would go, a good bit of R&R for you both after your traumatic experience.

blubberyboo · 26/01/2022 10:18

I agree doctor opinion is the way to go.

If you just cancel without a doctor letter you probs won’t be able to claim the insurance anyway.

If the doctor says he’s not fit to travel then that would support you in a claim.
If he is fit to travel then you can go with more peace of mind.

StrawberryPot · 26/01/2022 10:22

Mid-February is only a couple of weeks away and he's not even been discharged yet. Sounds a bit too soon to be taking him on a trip like that. As others have said, see what his drs say.

Spilltheteaplease · 26/01/2022 10:52

It does seem quite soon and will depend on his recovery as flying can impact his lungs plus if he relapsed he wouldn't be able to fly home again.

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holidaybol · 26/01/2022 12:10

Drs have said it's fine but they will double check with the consultant. I agree it's too soon - it's literally two weeks away.

Luckily we have travel insurance anyway and the hotels are all changeable etc so either way it's fine.

Yes he has had steroids so I didn't realise he will be immuno compromised..

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holidaybol · 26/01/2022 12:16

@zafferana sorry to hear you went through the same thing as well. I found it extremely stressful as DS was quite unwell and extremely distressed.

The drs were coming in the room every hour and pushing to try different treatments as DS was deteriorating quickly. The Drs were trying to get bloods out, get iv lines in, chest x rays, give him nebulisers etc etc and he was so distressed by it all. I had to hold him down while he was screaming and it just broke my heart.

DH was with DS1 at home so he missed all of this and don't think he realised just quite how unwell DS2 was.

Thank you all so much actually it's been very therapeutic just writing this all down and processing it.

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kasho5 · 26/01/2022 17:56

My daughter had pneumonia just after she turned 1. After being in hospital for a couple of days she made a full recovery and was fine afterwards.

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