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AIBU My Best Friend is acting 😒...

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HeebieJeebies7 · 25/01/2022 23:34

I have been good friends with this girl for the past seven years, at the start of our friendship she was A genuinely nice person and we got along well. As time progressed I felt like I was the only one putting in more time and effort with her , she simply didn't have time for me and I accepted the situation as she has a busy routine. A year ago I had some problems with my husband that I spoke to her about and she reminded me that I am a difficult person to understand, I have a handful of short comings and mostly that I am at fault ( I think although I am a complex person I do not believe I am unreasonable 99% of the time ). I was grateful to her for her time and so I never really questioned our friendship as she gets me for being me, that's a huge thing. Recently she has been feeling very low and I have been there to uplift her during her low in every way possible.She is arguing with mostly all of her family members as they have wronged her in one way or the other , she particularly makes it a point to compare how easy I have things and how difficult everything is for her and kept badgering me to find a guy for her (twice I have tried and twice she disappears when I get her someone leaving me embarrassed) and ask my family and friends.She is a self contradictory personality she wants her stuff to be private yet she wants me to ask around for an eligible bachelor. Fast forward to today I asked her for her instagram ( I am not a fan of Instagram so I m not on it ) so I could forward it to the guy and she ghosted me again. When I asked the reason for her disappearance she wrote a rude reply that I have a very demanding nature and that she does not want to put up with it. I have never demanded anything from her except some emotional support maybe twice or thrice a year , I have always been there for her , kept in touch, arranged meetings, birthdays etc etc . She embarrassed me by disappearing on all occasions I have tried to set her up with someone but reminds me to find her a guy everytime we speak! I replied to all her rude messages with a swear word ( I know it's was very immature but I got really angry ) she replied by bringing up things from my past and started throwing them in my face especially the low time with my husband a year ago, no matter how angry I have been with her I have never done that ever, I just lost my patience today and swore at her. Should I continue with this friendship and apologise ( I don't have alot of friends ) or do I just distance myself....... ?

OP posts:
Motnight · 25/01/2022 23:36

Have you posted this before Op!

Ionlydomassiveones · 25/01/2022 23:37

This reply has been withdrawn

This has been withdrawn at the poster's request.

DiddyHeck · 25/01/2022 23:38

Is it 'best friends day' on Mumsnet or something?

HeebieJeebies7 · 25/01/2022 23:42

Previous post got deleted so posted again as unresolved issues make me anxious

OP posts:
DiddyHeck · 25/01/2022 23:47

What did the deletion message say?

NeverDropYourMooncup · 25/01/2022 23:50

@DiddyHeck

What did the deletion message say?
'Pimping your bestie out to your sister's weird mate isn't cool'?
NorthSouthcatlady · 25/01/2022 23:52

@DiddyHeck 100% besties / best friend day Hmm

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 25/01/2022 23:55

There once were some threads about besties
Detailing life’s difficult testies
I’m really not dissing
The paragraphs missing
As this’ll go the same way as the resties.

whysitspicey · 25/01/2022 23:55

Why can't she 'find' her own guy?

CouncilHousedAndViolentBaby · 25/01/2022 23:57

Is she incapable of downloading Tinder

Traumdeuter · 25/01/2022 23:57

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

There once were some threads about besties Detailing life’s difficult testies I’m really not dissing The paragraphs missing As this’ll go the same way as the resties.
👏🏼
MiddleClassProblem · 25/01/2022 23:58

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

There once were some threads about besties Detailing life’s difficult testies I’m really not dissing The paragraphs missing As this’ll go the same way as the resties.
Bravo! I hope you see more of your work in the future.
CPL593H · 26/01/2022 00:00

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

There once were some threads about besties Detailing life’s difficult testies I’m really not dissing The paragraphs missing As this’ll go the same way as the resties.
Fabulous!

What gets me is that the posts about all these "besties" today read more like they are describing mortal enemies with whom the OP has a blood feud.

britneyisfree · 26/01/2022 00:02

Best friend and nursery day Hmm

HeebieJeebies7 · 26/01/2022 00:03

I never pimped her , she asked on several occasions to be set up with someone as the guys she likes leave her for being too emotional @NeverDropYourMooncup

No reason for deletion given @DiddyHeck

My luck the first time I post , everyone is talking about best friends @NorthSouthcatlady

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TempNameChangexx · 26/01/2022 00:05

Did it get deleted because you couldn't be bothered to put paragraphs in to make it actually readable?

Downunderduchess · 26/01/2022 00:08

You both sound like hard work & neither seems to invested much in your friendship. Stop bothering and see what happens.

HeebieJeebies7 · 26/01/2022 00:12

Although my Bestie is acting lame
This post isn't a contest or a game
So hopefully it will work out
Or might go down the same route ....

Have a few drinks and find a new dame@SheldonesqueTheBstard

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SheldonesqueTheBstard · 26/01/2022 00:14

You don’t sound like besties as such
You point out their faults far too much
Now your heid is thumpin
Due to friend’s lack of pumpin
You need to to not think of their crutch.

MiddleClassProblem · 26/01/2022 00:17

Well, I never expected this to turn into a limerick battle.

Having had 2 years starved of the arts, bring it on!

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 26/01/2022 00:24

MCP I’m no here for a fight
It is getting to that time of night
With regards to the mating
They should try on-line dating
For porking they need to swipe right.

Grapesavocado · 26/01/2022 00:28

It sounds a bit intense for a friendship.

HeebieJeebies7 · 26/01/2022 01:03

Artist and poets hardly sleep
Online dating advice sounds cheap
Maybe I am going too far
Apologies but your advice sounds bizarre
Time will tell if its a wolf or a sheep@SheldonesqueTheBstard

OP posts:
skodadoda · 26/01/2022 06:54

@TempNameChangexx

Did it get deleted because you couldn't be bothered to put paragraphs in to make it actually readable?
That was my first thought. OP, try reading your post out loud. Apart from the lack of punctuation a lot of it simply doesn’t make sense. You and your friend sound exhausting.
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