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Spain2007 · 25/01/2022 21:51

Good evening everyone,

I am new here and just really wanted.to share the experience and hear any advice or comments.
My husband suffers due to a previous breakdown and experiences periods of depression. He is usually a happy go lucky person but when he is in a mood, it is evident.
One thing that has started to become an issue is his constant negativity towards things he sees or watches. For example, when watching the tv he has to make a usually (negative) comment about the person on screen. Tonight we were simply watching a show about people living in the sun and straight away he chose to comment on the lady who was slightly overweight, oh how big her legs are. This is constant, the way people speak, dress everything. It is exhausting.
I asked nicely, please stop making comments every two seconds it’s not needed. He then started to rant, telling me it’s his house and he has the right to say whatever he wants and I shouldn’t keep telling him what to say. I tried explain but he kept telling me to shut up and made a big drama out of it, how much of a bully I am etc. I am honestly not, it takes a lot for me to make comment and when I did, the overreaction was evident. He is now stonewalling me, closed the door to the spare room and ranting away to himself about how awful I am to him and how unfair it is etc. I really believe I had to say something earlier, I am not trying to tell people what to say, just simply enjoy my evening without it being filled with negativity.

What do you think from reading this?

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JanglyBeads · 25/01/2022 22:27

How often is he "in a mood"? How long does it last? Did you witness his previous "breakdown"?

Guavaf1sh · 26/01/2022 23:03

If he’s prone to depression and is acting out of sorts then perhaps he needs to see someone about it. It’s not good for you if he goes off like this every so often

Gardeningcreature · 26/01/2022 23:09

I would say to him that the next time you are watching tv together, you do not want it ruining by his constant comments. Tell humanly that you want to watch it without interruptions. Take it from there.

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