To think too many people are rude and annoying

[feelinglowtodayinfertility]

I am becoming more and more withdrawn from the world as I get older. I don't like it.

I'm only early thirties I shouldn't feel this way.

I literally just don't want to socialise with anyone, anytime. I force myself and come away thinking why the fuck did I bother.

What's wrong with me, am I just done with people?

I don't want to hide away - what can I do to change it?

Yep, it's become a horrible place to live.
I don't socialize much these days
Makes life easier all round !

Why do you assume something is wrong with you? You sound self-aware and conscientious to me. I'm not a fan of people, either. Works well for me.

There's nothing wrong with not wanting to be around people all that often, but you'd like to socialise, I'd suggest being very selective about who you spend time with. Try to adopt a "like water off a duck's back" approach to negative interactions (not easy, I know), but meanwhile gradually add to the list of those who leave you feeling better after seeing them. Spend your time with the people who give you positive feelings and distance yourself from the ones who drag you down.

Whenever possible, take people in small doses. Some people annoy me if we're together too long, but for shorter periods of time, they're less likely to leave me feeing frustrated or exhausted.

• IF you'd like to socialise

I have given up on people,but share my life happily with a pet.there are loads of us out there who dont like sozialising.Nothing wrong with it.

DH makes me feel bad about it I'm worried we could drift because of it

Does your husband like to socialise a lot?

@Aquamarine1029 yes, he's become much more homely too with age but still does like socialising at least with his friends etc - when I have meets he declines them with my friends a lot of the time he does seem to be one way

It is a bit of a shame if you don't want it to happen, there is alot of joy to be had in the company of others

[quote feelinglowtodayinfertility]@Aquamarine1029 yes, he's become much more homely too with age but still does like socialising at least with his friends etc - when I have meets he declines them with my friends a lot of the time he does seem to be one way[/quote]
If that's the case, I would tell him to jog on. Hypocrite.

@Momicrone

It is a bit of a shame if you don't want it to happen, there is alot of joy to be had in the company of others

That is distinctly an opinion. You may feel that way, many people absolutely do not.

Ahh lovely, there’s nothing wrong whatsoever with how you feel! @giveyou2reasons gave a great, practical, response and I’d add - some people feel energised by social communication and some exhausted; neither are wrong, or the middling.
I’ve chosen to live in a quiet village and even then I simply don’t “get” a lot about modern society and behaviours and prefer my DH, one close friend and pets to being out out. DH does well in busier social situations but is quite happy that I don’t, he loves me. Try not to worry about a vague possibility of drifting apart - if you feel more peaceful inside then it will improve your relations.

Hmm do you have no one you like socialising with? As I went through my 30s I became more selective about who I spend time with.
Socialising has become something I do because I want to. Not something I do because i feel I should do.

I don't think people are any ruder or worse. I think as I got old I am willing to put up with less. I used to ignore it, try and smooth things over.

When yiu say your husband doesn't want to socialise with your friends, I don't think that's that odd. I know quite a lot of couples that have separate friends groups.

You don't have to friends with eachothers friends.

I think people do generally become less sociable as they age (on average), but to this extent suggests that there might be something else going on. There is something peculiar that you find so many people rude unless you're very unlucky. You know that expression about meeting a*holes? Could you be, for example, particularly sensitive?

Dealing with ' customer service ' in Wickes yesterday and how rude and unhelpful she was makes me realize that any decency has gone out the window these days.
People have become too self serving and hostile! Especially since the lockdowns.

I think lots of people are rude and annoying but the people I choose to socialise with tend not to be.

What does socialising involve?
I walk in a small group, sing in a choir and joined an art group. We just sit and paint but have a chat over coffee at half time. That's plenty of socialising for me.

Agree. I'm in my 20s if it makes you feel better.

I'm also early 30's and I don't enjoy socialising a lot, these days. I have one very close friend I've known since a teen, a few mutual friends of my DH who are similar to us, and a few other acquaintances I may meet up with for a drink once in a blue moon.

It has become that way because when I met with them often, as nice as they were, I felt drained rather than energised by their company. They're not bad people, far from it, but we just don't gel as we once did. They have no kids, are at different points in their careers, single and going out clubbing, etc. Nothing wrong with that as I've done it too, but the shared experiences are becoming strained and I need it to be more relatable at this point in my life.

I'm married with a small DS. I spend my weekends gardening, doing things with him and DH, building a home. I don't want to go out for bottomless brunch. Maybe one day in the future I will, but it's not appealing at the moment. I can't force myself to do something or be someone I'm not. Tbh, I think I've realised now that I didn't really enjoy it all anyway! I just needed the space away from it all to realise it.

I agree. It's fine to feel this way. We moved to the countryside. There are less people, and those that are here are generally more community minded and tolerable.