Having a neurologically atypical child is isolating

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I have a now 8 year old who probably has asd/adhd and I have no mummy friends. His odd behaviour has led to party invitations drying up and his behaviour at other people’s houses mean no return visits. I couldn’t take him to a coffee shop, he can’t cope with soft play and needs constant adult attention. He is silly at school and so no one wants to play with him or build new friendships. So I have begun to avoid people because policing his behaviour is exhausting. I feel very sad that things have turned out this way and very lonely. I have other friends but would never take him round as I know what will happen. It’s ok, I don’t want solutions. I just wanted to vent.

Seconding the advice to look for other families in the same boat. We have a couple of community arts type places round here who run stuff like tech/arts & crafts clubs for ND kids and there's an Autism Sings choir. DD has definitely found friendships with other ND kids easier to navigate and it gives me chances to meet other parents who understand which has been invaluable.

Some local authorities run a course called "incredible years" It is open to all parents although a significant proportion are those with SEN or neuro a-typical children.this would give you coping strategies and widen your circle of friends. It's amazing just how many of us feel like you do

I don't know if you've already tried this but is it any use?

cwmind.org.uk/autism-support-service/

Also this might be worth getting involved in

warwickshireparentcarervoice.org/