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To feel a bit fed up and resentful (Work related)

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Simpkins04 · 25/01/2022 12:09

A year ago I started a new role, it's an admin/ project support type role for a small company, I am a shared resource basically for everyone. The pay is pretty crap tbh (£20k!!) but the company is nice and I get to WFH full time so for me it negates the crap pay.

Due to the small nature of the company and the way it is structured, I am the only person who isn't commission based. Over the past 6 months the company has done really well (which I am pleased about, I think when it's a small company it feels more like a family so you naturally feel the highs and lows more, it also obviously means our jobs are more secure) and workload has increased fairly dramatically. We have grown in terms of staff and so more and more work is being piled onto me.

I am pretty much drowning in work all day, everyday now, I do take my hour's lunch each day because it's my only opportunity to walk the dogs in the daylight atm and I enjoy the fresh air and exercise, however there's so many days where it's gotten to 4pm and I realise I haven't even been to the toilet or even made a cup of tea all day.

We are winning a fair few projects atm and this is always met with whoops of joy from everyone else, with them exclaiming how much money each project has brought to the company and of course, they're all getting commission on this so of course they're all happy. I chime in with a 'woohoo, that's brilliant.' every now and again but inside I'm resentful as I think it's all a bit tone deaf and insensitive of them considering they know that I'm the lowest paid person in the company and all extra projects mean for me is more work with no additional pay.

My boss mentioned last week about hiring another me (which we do need and will especially need in the coming months) but I have no idea who is going to manage this person, I except it'll fall to me.

Don't get me wrong, I know I took the role at X amount salary, but there is no room for progression unless I want to do sales (I don't) or get an engineering degree to do more on projects (I don't!) The problem is I'm 10 weeks pregnant and haven't told work yet Blush so I don't feel like I can really discuss progression in the company, at least not for the next year.

Ideally I want a bit of a payrise as I've busted my arse off like everyone else for the last year and yet I'm the only one who hasn't seen any compensation for it. But again, I'm about to tell them I'm pregnant in the next few weeks, I don't think it'll go down well even though I plan to return full time after 9 months so hardly feel I can ask for a payrise.

AIBU/ an entitled brat? Feel free to be honest as i'm half thinking I just need to get over myself but the other half is starting to feel really resentful.

OP posts:
saltinesandcoffeecups · 25/01/2022 12:59

Sorry if I’m being captain obvious here, but is the potential new you an opportunity for advancement? Talk to your boss about how they see the roles and if they’d consider a promotion for you to manage the new one.

MonicaGellerCleans · 25/01/2022 13:01

Let me guess, the commission earners are all men??

DontBlameMe79 · 25/01/2022 13:03

##If he could give me a performance based bonus or something each year it would mean I'd stay with the company long term, otherwise I think I'll have to start looking for another role in the next year or so, which I really don't want to do as I really like the company and people.##

Could you tell him exactly this. What is worst that could happen?

Forestdweller11 · 25/01/2022 13:04

I think you need a two pronged approach, so a bit of a mix and match.
Ask for the payrise go in with a plan which as pp has said puts you in charge. You don't want a payrise and have the same work load because your employer decides that they won't get anyone else because they are paying you more. Neither do you want the company to employ someone to take on some of the work and you then find out that they've got more salary than you/get some bonus.

Your pregnancy is a red herring. You don't have to tell your employers until no later than the 15th week before your due date. If you are WFH they aren't even going to see you physically changing shape. One thing to be aware of is that they can't be accused of being discriminatory if they don't actually know you are pregnant.

They might be a bit like wtf when you tell them. You need to h ave a poker face. You've time for them to sort out an 'assistant' , have a decent handover and also potentially have people lined up to cover your maternity leave and have a payrise before you go on maternity

Danikm151 · 25/01/2022 13:17

Take your pregnancy out of the equation for now.
You feel you deserve a payrise, approach your boss with your reasons and justification for it. The worst they can do is say no but that will give you ammunition to look elsewhere after maternity leave ends.

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