Putting pics of a poorly child on SM

[Namechangedforthisone287]

I'm friends with someone on FB, we're not really friends in rl more just acquaintances through other friends. Her children (all under 10) all have covid at the moment, and she is continually posting photos of them with captions clearly designed to induce sympathy.

I find this distasteful, and wonder how she would feel if someone posted pics of her sleeping and clearly unwell without her consent.

AIBU to think this is a bit out of order? Or am I just being judgy?

I've recently noticed on Facebook, how everyone that are isolating or have Covid have been updating with regular pictures. One 'friend' has resorted to hourly updates of her and her kids! Saying that though it's her captions that make me as she refers to her children as Sexy

Saying that though it's her captions that make me confused as she refers to her children as Sexy hmm

My niece showed me someone on tictok live telling her 3 year old to say ‘I’m sexy’ a while ago and various other grim stuff. Wtf? And then loads of comments saying the person was such a good mum. Poor kids.

No it's not right. I sometimes post pictures on SM but always ask for my kids (9&11) permission first. If they say no I don't post it.

Yanbu obviously totally unreasonable. Also an (unwell) young child can’t “consent” in any meaningful way.

Wonder if this generation will totally rebel against SM wouldn’t blame them with these dreadful attention seeking parents shoving phones in their faces their entire childhood 🙄. My 15 barely posts anything she’s very private and rightly so

I'm ashamed to say that I did this once (8 years ago). DD was born premature, struggling to breath and had sepsis. I told DH family who didn't give two shits. They only lived 10 mins away and didn't come once or even message. I was so angry and upset I posted a pic on social media of DD thanking those who had come to see her or had messaged asking how she was. Pretty childish really- but I was quite young at the time. For years I had put up with their selfishness and it was the final straw. See in-laws now but make a point to keep them at arms length as they are people that care on the surface but when it really matters they are never there.

Weird and gross.

No it's wrong. I don't have SM anymore this is one of them reasons why I don't. It's awful on the child and pure attention seeking behaviour on the parents part.

I have many friends on FB that do this. I just unfollow now.

I also know of one family who’s child sadly had cancer but would post graphic photos of the child struggling with chemo etc. I understand the parents pain, but somehow just doesn’t sit right with me.

Just u friend her. That’s the joy of social
Media - you don’t have to engage , and you don’t have to be party to this attention seeking. Poor kids.

**"it's a bit revealing that you have an issue with her 'asking for sympathy'

Is it? That's one of my pet hates about SM - the constant posts fishing for "aww, poor you" messages from virtual strangers.

I work with a Sympathy Vampire and she gets visibly excited when she has bad news to share.

PS. I know the OP is not a stranger in this case. I might send sad stuff in a private message but not on SM

@Isittimeformynapyet

**"it's a bit revealing that you have an issue with her 'asking for sympathy'

Is it? That's one of my pet hates about SM - the constant posts fishing for "aww, poor you" messages from virtual strangers.

I work with a Sympathy Vampire and she gets visibly excited when she has bad news to share.

Agree 100%