Men go weird after sex AIBU?

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So this has been driving me insane all day

I’m a single mum and get on really well with a male colleague
Although we only see each other at work about once a fortnight

I’ve known him for nearly 2 years
We’ve always got on but 2 months ago the milf flirting turned into him asking for my number

Swapped numbers and he text me some jokey stuff almost immediately. Even called me but I was too busy to answer.

Then a couple weeks went by and nothing
So I bit the bullet and text him. It was to ask advice on something but also to get the conversation started

Since then we’ve been (mostly driven by him) texting every day sometimes for hours and he’s phoned me several times too.

We arranged a date last Friday
Took me out for dinner and we got on really well as always

Yes we then spent the night together we seem to have great chemistry

Nothing negative happened that I can think of
He was keen to know info on any men that may be in my life
Like is there anyone else? That kind of thing

We left on good terms
But this is where I’m confused
In the morning we chatted before leaving
He said to me you didn’t just come here for this though did you? I said no. He asked why then? I said to spend time with you
He asked why I wanted to do that? I told him it’s because I like him of course

He said he was just checking

I knew he was going to pick his kids up that morning and spend the day with him but he said text me when you get home

I did and later he just replied with a kiss
I knew he was busy no big deal

Since that he has totally cooled off
No more morning texts nothing
I’ve text him a couple times just to say hi or jokey things and I get replies but they are short and sweet and leave me with nothing to answer

So now I’m thinking wtf?
Do I just give him space and wait it out (don’t want to seem clingy)
Do I just outright ask him what’s up?
Or is it all in my head
He’s definitely changed though

I’ve been out of this dating game for ages

He knows I’m just wanting to see how things go and not trying to get him into a relationship immediately

But honestly before this we could talk about anything and everything and now it’s like he’s fallen off the planet!

AIBU??

Definitely don't respond or chase.
He just wanted the thrill of the chase. If he liked you he'd have let you know by now and if he liked you as a friend but nothing more (and was honourable) he would have let you down gently. He's done neither, so he's not interested.

Chalk it up to experience, cut your losses and move on.

I'm not someone who thinks its automatically a bad idea to sleep with someone too soon but if its someone you like and you aren't sure how they feel its definitely worth being cautious.

You've just dodged a bullet. Men who are unable to be honest aren't worth a shit. He's either ball-less, an arse hole or a child. There's just no need for tge behaviour. If he doesn't want to see you again, he should just say it.

OP you deserve better x

the milf flirting turned into him asking for my number

milf flirting

That seems to be your answer. Mothers I'd like to fuck.
So he did and now he's done.
He's a chancer and a dick.
Kick to the kerb.

I never meant to put milf flirting
Typo I meant mild flirting 😂

Anyway he must have read my mind coz I woke up to a load of messages saying he’s sorry he had an issue with his shower flooding his ceiling and other outrageous drama

This was at 1 am but I was already asleep

Then 10 mins ago a good morning text

To be honest you girls have just helped me clarify what I already know

I’ve left him on red and won’t be replying

Thankyou girls xx

Good for you! So glad to hear that!