Mental health struggle

[housinghero]

I'm struggling with my mental and physical health.
I have depression, thyroid disease and osteoarthritis
My nephew died recently .
It has stirred up a lot of feelings regarding parental narcissistic emotional abuse.
Which in turn has triggered my anxiety and arthritis
I work in a stressful job .
AIBU to take a couple of days off sick

I'm so sorry you've got so much going on there, that sounds like one mountain of horrible stuff all at once, and I'm so sorry for the loss of your nephew.
YES, take time off for sure. get yourself some lie-ins, see some supportive friends if you can, eat lots of comfort food and look after yourself. It's important to have proper downtime. Hope things improve for you both physically and mentally xxx

I’m so sorry you are suffering. It’ll be good to open up to friends and family but I’d also strongly recommend getting some counselling. Is that an option for you?

I am sooo tired. Having panic attacks all evening.
I have spoken to my husband and he knows how I feel.
I have had counselling before but not about this. I did a self referral last week and have to call back to make an appointment.
I was feeling anxious about doing it but it’s something I need to do

@housinghero get yourself booked in for counselling/go private if you need to xxx

I am so sorry to hear this OP.

Of course you should call in sick to work! Lie in, stay in bed, just take some time to yourself.

I agree with finding yourself some therapy, but a word of caution from a fellow narc-parental-abuse-sufferer. Make sure the person who you see is experienced in narc-abuse. I've lost count of the number of therapists I've seen over the years and some actually made it worse at the time - putting the onus on me to try & get the abuse to stop (it went on into adulthood) and giving me 'strategies' to make my mother happier. It wasn't until I met my current therapist who is actually a psychiatrist, that I was actually validated for what I went through and was able to heal. Best of luck with it all.

Take time off. You need to rest.
Thyroid problems are well known to have an effect on depression ( I’m not sure if they cause it or aggravate what is already there) Are you sure your thyroid is being treated optimally? It might be a place to start.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your nephew. Grief is exhausting and seems to fire up anything else that’s not great in us, I can quite understand it’d make yoyr thyroid and osteoarthritis flare up.
Small steps, tackle one thing at a time. I hope you feel better soon.