To want my own car in my fifties?

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My STBXH who I am separated from and divorcing on the grounds of his adultery is questioning why I want my own car. Not even 'want' - he says I don't 'need' a car because he says I don't go anywhere. He suggests I use my son's car if I need to go anywhere.
What the hell is wrong with this man?
AIBU to want a car at my age?!

Why is it his business? You're separated. Buy a car.

WTF does it have to do with him? Tell him to fuck off.

@steff13

Why is it his business? You're separated. Buy a car.

It isn't. Quite right. Thank you

@2022success

WTF does it have to do with him? Tell him to fuck off.

I'd like to.

@2022success

WTF does it have to do with him? Tell him to fuck off.

This.

I love the previous comments! But why did you tell him you were planning to buy a car? In fact, why tell him anything at all?

You deserve a car for putting up with that twat. Do it. Get one.

Unless there are two cars in the marriage and they are being negotiated over in the divorce, I can't see why he would even be giving an opinion on it.

It's nothing to do with him whether you want a car, a moped or a glittery unicycle.

If he says it again, ask him what business it is of his!

The most wonderful feeling in the world is finally looking at this arsehole and saying, "you aren't my problem any more, your opinion doesn't matter". I remember it well. Glorious.

If you aren't quite at that point, think it, smile, and walk away.

What a twat he is, what a lucky escape for you. XDH was always questioning my decisions too, I soon learned not to tell him anything and to refuse to engage in any conversations with him about what I was doing - big smile, change subject back to kids arrangements.

Well I can see why he's going to be an ex!

Learn to answer bluntly but with something that doesn't invite a response like "I want a car, I'm getting a car - what I do is no longer your business".

Or even "well now I'm no longer tied to a twat like you who thinks they have a right to dictate what I do - I'm going to get the car and get out and about much more"

OP, STBXH was v pissed off that I took more out of the joint account to get another car (we had agreed what we would each take - the same for both of us), when we were splitting up.
Up till that point I'd always had the larger family car while he drove around in a sporty thing. And of course, he always spent more on the car he was going to use - I wasn't 'allowed' to spend as much as him. Did he like it? No
Was there anything he could do about it? No
Do it!
(And for the future never discuss things like this with him again, or in front of your DCs if they're likely to repeat it to him.)
P.S. I then went on to buy myself a very nice, bright red car when I had a 'big' birthday. It's brought a smile to my face every time I get in it ever since.

You get the best most practical or impractical car you want! None of his business!

Is he buying the car?? If not, tell him to go do one! Of course you can have your own car! Man sounds like a complete twat 🤦🏼‍♀️