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AIBU?

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to be frustrated by these holiday plans

12 replies

HedgehogintheFog · 24/01/2022 13:03

PIL have 'planned' a family holiday. They have booked and paid for the accommodation and we have to get ourselves there, which is absolutely fine.

However, I am so frustrated by the lack of detail. I think they don't want to share too many details of the accommodation because they don't want us to know what they've paid, but we don't even have an address or know if there is any parking or what time check in/check out is. We have a Whatsapp group and I asked for more details and they sent some limited information to DH separately, but it still doesn't answer everything. There are other family members in the group who also need to plan, and it would be good to coordinate with them, but the secretive sharing of details makes this really tricky.

We don't know what they want to do whilst we are there so we don't know if we need to hire a car. PIL have already booked their flights but have not shared any details of these (I think they are going for longer, but they haven't said).

The cheapest flights are late at night, but then there might be issues depending on how we are supposed to get to the accommodation (e.g. hire car/taxi etc.) so I am reluctant to book anything until there are more details.

AIBU to expect them to share all the information, or at least do a bit more planning and coordination themselves?

OP posts:
2pinkginsplease · 24/01/2022 13:08

Get your dh to message the WhatsApp group saying that unless there is more info shared regarding the holiday then you won’t be booking flights.

I’m like you and need to know what I’m doing, I hate the unknown and like to be organised or my stress levels get higher and higher.

LittleMissUnreasonable · 24/01/2022 13:13

"Hi PiL, thanks again for booking the holiday accommodation. Me and DH are looking forward to it. Just so you know, prices of flights are rising and due to Covid, we want to get everything sorted and booked, so please can you send us the address of the accommodation so we can start planning how to get there."

ihatethecold · 24/01/2022 13:13

I think you may need to be a bit more assertive. The PIL sound a bit controlling to be behaving like this.

Shoxfordian · 24/01/2022 13:14

Maybe they’re trying to keep it a fun surprise but more details would be good

Hire a car because then you’ll have some ability to go out on your own when you’re there

Santahasjoinedww · 24/01/2022 13:16

Maybe they have claimed the best room and don't want to let on you are all sharing a sofa bed...

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 24/01/2022 13:19

Dont ask for more details, ask specific questions, if you havent already done so.

Eg we need to know the address to book a transfer, please could you confirm by the weekend. What are exact check in and check out times, we need these to book a taxi...etc

Nonivknamesforcatapillars · 24/01/2022 13:20

I’d probably hire a car anyway, that way you can get away from them if you need to.

They need to give you the address though. How are you supposed to get somewhere when you don’t have a clue where it is? Confused

that1970shouse · 24/01/2022 13:22

Stop doing the wife work. It's your DH's family. Tell him your concerns and hand him the responsibility to sort it.

rainbowstardrops · 24/01/2022 13:46

Your DH needs to tell them that you need specific details.
Unless it's some fantastic surprise, I think they're coming across as controlling.

ChimChimeny · 24/01/2022 13:52

God this would put me right off going, they sound really hard work.

I agree that your DH needs to ask them for specifics and if they don't give you the info in time to get decent price flights I'd try to get out of it. why should their weird secretive-ness cost you more!

ZenNudist · 24/01/2022 13:57

I don't seriously the issue. Just ask what time can you arrive and if there is enough parking, then book car hire. I've never used the address until driving there. Lots of places don't give the address until nearer the time.

ZenNudist · 24/01/2022 13:59

Oh and plan to arrive in good time on the day not in the middle of the night. Cheapness of flight aside holiday homes are a pain to find. Not helped by driving in the dark.

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