AIBU to not want to hear every detail of the staff party

[whatisforteamum]

The staff party was Saturday night.A belated Xmas one which every one went to except me.
I never have gone as I have quite bad anxiety in social situations so never eat in restaurants. I find it difficult and every yr I have to justify my absence.
Also there are some underlying bullying issues so spending more time with these
Colleagues wouldn't be fun.The majority are fantastic though.We spend around 55 hrs a week together already.
I know today all the talk will be about the party who said what who ate what who threw up from drinking too much.Urrgh.
This will be the topic of conversation for weeks.Every detail.
I don't mind hearing they have nice food etc .Good,I'm pleased.
I just don't want to hear about it ad nauseam.
Tell me I am a misery guts this Monday morning.🤣

Sorry, I do think you are being a bit of a misery guts - I also rarely go to staff events but think it’s pretty normal for people to talk about them afterwards- just grin and bear it 🙂

I'm an introvert that doesn't go to work parties op.

But you can't not go but complain about them talking about it I'm afraid.

I think you are being unreasonable. They will have had a good time and want to talk about it. Fair enough if you don’t want to join in but you can’t stop them having a chat about it.

You’re a misery guts.

Fair enough.

You refused to go but also don’t want others to talk about having gone? YABVU

Clemdanfango when you say refused I guess you didn't read the bit about my anxiety,it's so bad it is classed as a disability.

I understand you'll feel a bit left out because you didn't attend, but you really can't police what people talk about at work. I rarely go to work events these days, I enjoyed them when I was younger but find them tedious these days and very happy to hand the baton over to the youngsters. I just smile and get on with my work whilst they're talking about office shindigs.

I only want to know if "special Scottish socks" are involved...

JC488 🤣🤣

Tbh it was quite low key.

You can have it both ways OP, you either go and hate it, or listen to the chat. Once you keep working or stick headphones on they should not include you.

You'd be okay working with me OP, because I REFUSE to talk about the works party with those who didn't attend

It's my bugbear when you get to work on the Monday morning and people want the goss. I'm like no Brenda, you didn't put the work in you don't get to know the details

The Christmas party from 4 years ago is still discussed at my work, I wasn’t there, but all Christmas parties are now compared to that night. One lady tried to outdo that night, and was close this year. She went off sick with stress after it (because of her actions) We work in professional roles

Chillyjam that is hilarious 🤣
One of ours a few yrs ago was all about who vomited where.Nice.
Then again I'm decades older than them so not on the pulling and drinking phase of life.