To just want to fuck it all?

[BookGinnyisbetter]

I'm back at work tomorrow after I caught Covid at Christmas. I'm a nurse and it's very physical so I'm worried about that, im worried I won't be able to manage the whole day. My crohns is kicking off and I've been up 5 times tonight already. I'm tired and it's not helping my anxiety about tomorrow.

My neighbour is an absolute menace to society and threatened to set fire to our house at the weekend. He's the kind of man who absolutely would do this. I've had to put both dogs into day care tomorrow so that they're safe. We don't have internet until Tuesday when open reach come out and sort the line out so the cameras we have aren't currently working.

I'm so worried about tomorrow. I have to get up at 5, go to work and be present at work whilst worrying about whether he's set fire to the house/ broken in and done god knows what.

That would be enough to set off anyone’s Crohn’s. What an absolutely stressful nightmare. It sounds like you’re getting it from all angles - not sure if you’re strong enough after COVID, knowing that your Crohn’s is flaring, and then the worst timing for lack of internet in the world. Though at least your dogs will be safe.

I wish I had an answer for you, but I don’t. Maybe try working and if you can’t make it through the day, you can’t. You have an autoimmune disease, you made it through COVID, and you’re trying your best. Your GO or consultant will just have to determine if you need a staggered return, though I understand that’s not easy as an RN. As for the internet, of course you have every reason in the world to say fuck it all when facing a neighbor like that, the problems that go with it, and then not having protection. But truth is… better for him to do something to the house than you be home and him to do something to you. You mean more than any house and the house is replaceable, while you’re not. So just try to be gentle with yourself in the ways you can, do whatever you can to get through tomorrow, and good luck

i am sorry you are in this situation.
I would inform police . I would also arrange cctv so that you can watch his activity.
He threatened you. So will learn lesson from next time. Also if you think of moving or selling house you have to disclose this dispute as well.
Why he threatened you ? is it boundary dispute or hedge stuff like that ?

I would take a day off from work if i was you

@titanic25 I reported him to social services for abusing his child he guessed it was me.

Well obviously if the OP could arrange cameras for Monday she would but she is waiting to have the internet fixed. Are the police aware of your neighbour's threats? If you do go in can you sneak out with the dogs and maybe leave the television or radio on to give the impression you're home. Hopefully he's not so mad as to intend to burn down an occupied house. Or is he? Can you move for the future? Male sure you're insured and all paid up. I'd move important documents to a safe deposit box and maybe store anything irreplaceable in the meantime.

@Rangoon yes police are aware. They're going to have a word with him I think if I do go to work Tomorrow/ today I'm going to take the important documents with me in the car thats a good idea!

Yeah I think this is a stupid idea. I need to go call out tomorrow. Make safe the house. Get the alarm company out to refit it, fit the fire proof letter box, sort the internet out on Tuesday and then go back to work on Wednesday. That makes the most sense

you did the right thing by reporting him and will certainly make a difference to child s life.

I've emailed my boss and I'm not going in today.

I think you did the right thing in the circs.

What an absolute mess for you, you're amazing.

@truthfullylying I don't feel very amazing! I had to call social services 6 times and it was only because I also called the school he went to they decided to investigate. He's still there at the moment but every time I ring the police now they tell social services because he's so high risk. I don't think he'll be there much longer. It came out over the weekend he's being investigated by them and a lot more people in the village have expressed their concerns to the social workers.

I am concerned for our safety but mainly I'm also anxious about seeing him out and about in the village. We went out on Saturday night and all night I was staring at the door waiting for him to storm in and start screaming at me. I hope he does tbh so people can see how horrendous he is

@BookGinnyisbetter you feel dreadful now but you're juggling stress and illness recovery.

Keep reporting to the police, protect your property, put yourself first.

As a nurse you are a valuable resource and better you have a bit more time off now than lots of time off later.

You should be able to get a free fire proof letter box from the fire service if the police refer you.

They'll also fit it for free too and check your smoke alarms.

I'm sorry you're having such a bad time worrying about your shit neighbour, but you did the right thing reporting your concerns.

I've always thought I would report if I ever suspected anyone of child abuse, even if it caused me problems, as I'm an adult and better me suffering than a child.

I really hope for a better outcome very soon for you and the child next door.

Honestly you did the right thing by reporting him especially after author , star and kaylee jayde priest cases in the news lately ..
he sounds unhinged , please get police involved and I'm so sorry you have to deal with this stress it's a nightmare when your neighbors make life unbearable ( I have some of them)
Hope everything gets better for you soon OP ❤️

@Limegreentangerine completely agree with you. I wouldn't hesitate to do it again and will continue to report his horrendous behaviour. They have to do something. I expect he will ramp it up again when they remove him but then he'll be arrested and he'll be evicted because the child isn't there anymore

I feel a bit anxious about not being in work today but there is not a lot I can do tbh, just need to get on with the list of jobs and call my ibd team as I don't want a flare going untreated. Worse timing ever!!

Little update. I got the internet sorted so the cameras are working now so that's a huge relief! Not seen him since he posted horrendous things about me on Facebook on Saturday. The gate lock is really stiff round the side of the terraces and I couldn't close it so i expect he'll kick off tomorrow about that