Hormones or??

[shas19]

So last night my son was using his dad tablet and typed in on Google YouTube...as soon as he typed the y in a few links for a porn website came up. I quickly took it off him and went to delete it. So here's the aibu, as I was scrolling down the history all the dates he's watched porn I'm upstairs in bed asleep heavily pregnant, should also mention we have a good sex life. I looked at the search h bar and 4 days ago he was searching for a celeb woman's body online and looking at photos of her...4 days after I gave birth via emergency c section and knows how upset indeed about my body atm. he just so happened to call me as I was going through it all and denied the porn watching, so I sent him a photo of it and he didn't reply. We haven't spoke to eachother since yday. I feel so insecure now, he's looking at other women just after watching me go through major surgery giving birth to our 3rd child. So is it just me being hormonal or is it shitty of him?

It really depends upon what you will tolerate. I wouldn’t, but plenty of others do.

@GoodnightGrandma

It really depends upon what you will tolerate. I wouldn’t, but plenty of others do.

@goodnightgrandma sorry forgot to add I've told him before I'm not comfortable with it. I feel so hurt and the fact I haven't even had an apology says it all

So it’s not because you’ve just had a baby, he has history with it.

@GoodnightGrandma

So it’s not because you’ve just had a baby, he has history with it.

@goodnightgrandma yea, found it once he promised wouldn't do it again blah blah blah and now look. He even lied saying he hasn't done anything but it was there in black and white. The fact I gave birth 4 days before he was looking at photos of women online makes me feel sick. I feel very vulnerable right now

Its shitty of him🤷‍♀️

It's not great but I suppose at least he's not pestering you for sex (I realise this is a low bar for decency!)

I’m going to go against the grain of MN here.

Men have different drives to us. They like to masturbate. He clearly uses porn to do so.

Plenty of other men do it too, personally I’d rather my husband sorted himself out than got on my nerves 3 days post section.

His promises don't mean anything, do they.

If he's going to look at other women, he could at least have the courtesy and brains enough to delete the history so his wife, and child, don't stubble across the pathetic porn he was wanking to.

@Aquamarine1029

If he's going to look at other women, he could at least have the courtesy and brains enough to delete the history so his wife, and child, don't stubble across the pathetic porn he was wanking to.

@aquamarine1029 this is what I said to myself. I just feel sick. He hasn't said anything to me, I've even left to get on with everything since 4 days post section and I'm so tired and emotional, feel like I've had enough

@TeamBlondie

I’m going to go against the grain of MN here.

Men have different drives to us. They like to masturbate. He clearly uses porn to do so.

Plenty of other men do it too, personally I’d rather my husband sorted himself out than got on my nerves 3 days post section.

They don't have 'different drives' from 'us'. Different people have different sex drives, that's not defined by their sex.

OP, for me this wouldn't be a big deal, but it clearly is for you. Talk to him about it. Make it clear that if he's going to do this he should at least cover his tracks properly and keep it private.

Masturbation is an entirely healthy and reasonable thing for anyone in a relationship to enjoy (assuming it's not a compulsion / addiction).

Men have different drives to us. They like to masturbate. He clearly uses porn to do so
Only men masturbate!

Tbh, I'm more upset about searching and looking for womens body's which I look nothing like rn, after seeing what I just went through and how I feel about my body atm it just feels like a kick in the teeth. Also I don't care about him masturbating, but at least have the decency to delete the porn as he knows I don't like the idea of it