Not on the same wave length..

[Candleropeheart]

DH and I haven't been seeing eye to eye lately.. Bout two weeks.. Work/stress/no time for each other etc..

Our youngest ds is away to sleepover tonight.. I made a comment about being able to do something if his mum kept oldest ds.. He asked what and I said oh idk whatever things couples do..

It's been about an hour and I went to check on him (he was meant to be getting showered after working) and he's sorted sleepover for oldest ds yay! But he's booked us a room in a place less than 10 mins away... (With dinner yay)

I wasn't impressed, he wasn't happy I wasn't impressed and now he is going on his own to the hotel..
Was I being a bitch?

Yes I wanted to do something but we have a house and don't need a hotel room.. So that's a total waste of money on top of the dinner expense and drinks and we have a lot of events next month that I have already to budget for and he knows all this..

I meant dinner, ice skating or bowling, mauds or a late night coffee place then come home.. I didnt mean the local hotel..

But I didn't say that either but thot he knew me..🤷‍♀️

Seriously?

You wanted to do something; he sorted childcare, booked a hotel, drinks and dinner.

And you still bitched about it. I'm not surprised you aren't seeing eye to eye - you sound massively hard work and impossible to please.

You sound absolutely awful OP.

Yup you were an arse I’d have left you and gone to the hotel alone too!

If this is real.

I would be thrilled! No dinner to cook and able to have a proper relax, something I struggle to do at home as there is always something to do. Go and find him and apologise!!

Ok, ok, maybe she could have handled things better, but I don't think OP deserves a pile-on.

She and her husband had different ideas. She didn't think she needed to point out what to her seemed obvious. I wouldn't be impressed about a stay in a hotel, either, as I hate hotels! Only ten minutes away from home? No, thanks! My husband knows me well enough by now to be aware that I'd hate that.

OP, the money is spent. You might as well try to enjoy it. You could patch things up and go join him. Or patch things up and enjoy a little space from one another. Next time, be more specific about what you have in mind, or ask him to confirm plans with you before committing with cash.

"I meant dinner, ice skating or bowling, mauds or a late night coffee place"

Yet didn't say any of that when asked. I'd be doing my best to join him.

She and her husband had different ideas. She didn't think she needed to point out what to her seemed obvious

She did point it out. She told him 'what couples do'. So he booked something that couples do.

I guess I’m an outlier on this one- I would be disappointed too. I hate hotels and I wouldn’t see the point of one that close to home. Like you I would be expecting something more than just dinner and a hotel stay, what we can do at a hotel we can do at home.