To want to spend the weekend with my partner before we get married?

[Earlyflash]

We are getting married in Feb, and my partner arranged a day out for themselves in the Sunday the weekend before (we are getting married midweek)

In my head I was rather hoping that we’d spend that weekend together doing, I dunno, together things..

My partner did agree, but made a comment about that meaning that I was ‘needy’, which I’ll admit has been a problem recently from my side…

Talking to a friend today; they mentioned that they agreed I was being needy.

So; with good grace, and no bad feeling at all; I ask the internet:

AIBU wanting to spend the weekend before our marriage together?

(And on the chance that my partner reads this; I love you; and whatever the poll says we will go with!)

Your fiancé’s concern is that he get a day away from you the weekend before the wedding and that you’re needy.

I don’t think that bodes well for the marriage.

YABU not to tell him your idea for that weekend in plenty of time.

Ok, message received!

How have you not got a million things to do, am not sure I saw DH at all the weekend before our wedding 🤣🤣 let him have some time!

You'll have plenty of weekends together after you're married.

I know that spouses shouldn't be exactly blind to their partner's faults. But it helps if they find them endearing. I am not so sure I would be okay if my fiancé described me as "needy in the run up to the wedding. That's just me though.

You’re going to have a whole life time of ‘together things’. Marriages are healthier when spouses aren’t joined at the hip.

@Rangoon

I know that spouses shouldn't be exactly blind to their partner's faults. But it helps if they find them endearing. I am not so sure I would be okay if my fiancé described me as "needy in the run up to the wedding. That's just me though.

This is what I was trying to say but Rangoon said it perfectly.

Op, I’m with you. There’s something off putting about your fiancé already telling you you’re needy. Now if you truly are, ok. But I’m getting a sense that he is already showing a bit of contempt for you instead of finding you endearing. And if there’s ever a time when someone finds another endearing, it’s when a couple is getting wed!

How big is the wedding, do you have a wedding coordinator, or will he get a nice day out while you prep things for the day ? There were lots to do just before our wedding.