Advice on accessing SD belongings

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I'm going to be vague to protect identity.
My SD has been locked out and told to leave her mums house
She has blocked SD and my OH on everything.
Her belongings are in the house, school books, clothes etc they have no way of contacting her
There is a history of this happening.
I gave spoken with NSPCC and they have said contact police, police are saying its a civil matter.
Is this correct surely my OH and SD should be able to arrange a time with police present to collect items as with domestic abuse cases.
Thanks

@CaffeineAndCrochet

Can you go into the local police station and talk to someone face to face?

Where do you live that still has local stations with manned front desk access?!

Try the police again. Put emphasis on school work/books. Even better if she can cope with it and make the call herself.Also , contact the school and let them know what is going on ,just in case you can't manage to get them back. If she's refusing to engage or give her her things this is the only way you can force her hand.

Does DSD (or her grandmother)have a key she can use once her mum is out working to recover her belongings?

Otherwise, if none of these are options you'll just have to hope there's some kind of rational thought and she'll return at least some of the things.

It really sucks and your poor DSD. Hugs for her, can't even imagine what she must be going through.

Certainly none around where we are.

She has taken the key back from SD and her gran doesn't have one.
She only wants to go in for 10 mins max and grab the essentials.
OH is going to try police again tomorrow it can't be right that he is being told that they don't do this even with martial relationships
The girl literally has the clothes on her back.
Obviously we will replace things for her but the clothes are hers and bought with her own money, the mum can't claim she bought them so she can't have them for this reason.
He will also speak with the school Monday.

A friend had a similar situation, she contacted SS who escorted her DD 15 to collect things

@Toomanypeople

A friend had a similar situation, she contacted SS who escorted her DD 15 to collect things

Thar could be an option, didn't realise they could do that. Police are adamant its a civil matter and they do not assist in any domestic situation

OP try asking the police if they will attend to prevent a breach of the peace. That's the usual justification for assisting in retieving possessions in cases of marital breakups. Basically its better all round for them to be there to stop it from escalating in the first place, then not be there and end up being called as it's all gone wrong. Good luck!

@KO81
I work in one at the front desk!

Still 10 left in the West Midlands.

And we probably wouldn't be able to assist as it's a very low priority compared to all the ongoing crimes in the area. You could say it was theft and you'd just either get a phone call or a crime number. There just aren't the officers available .

Best way would be via the school and the Welfare Officer, or done schools have a PCSO working with them.

*some NOT done