- Isn't bothered when his OH is poorly, makes out his is just as poorly or equally ignores her.
- gives silent treatment when one of her (not his) dcs do something that annoy him.
- Constantly talks about work and nothing else
- Won't let anyone watch what they want on tv - tells them to go to their rooms as they have their own TVs there. OH never watches what she would like too.
- Does no housework
- Doesn't help with childcare
- Sublty just expects his OH to do everything around the house
- Always talks about himself/achievements
- If he does do something (cook for example) he has to constantly ask if the food is nice and if everyone likes it. Also tells everyone how much he enjoyed a meal he cooked
- puts little effort in OH's birthday. OH deals with everyone else's birthday/Xmas. He does nothing, not even for his own family.
- OH feels she is walking on egg shells all the time. Leaves the family home once/twice a year after an argument caused by him but she always goes back
- very insecure, lately he has been feeling oh has someone else
- has an addiction - not alcohol or drugs but does something everyday that his oh repeatedly asks to stop. He promises daily he will but doesn't
- frequently asks his oh if she is proud to have a partner like him. Asks if she is glad he can fix things in the house etc. Asks her if she's glad he doesn't cheat
- Has a teenage child who he puts all his problems on to and has done since the child was young.
- Has no idea of the correct things to talk about in front of dcs - things have been rocky for them lately and he continues to try talk about the issues in front of the dcs. It's like he cannot see that there is a time and a place for things to be spoken about.
- got angry at his OH when she said her mental health was declining
- OH likes to stay at her family members house every once in a while. He does not like this and she doesn't go. He doesn't shout but whatever he says is enough to make her not go.
- He has children from a previous relationship who she does the childcare for as he just sits on a weekend and doesn't do much.
There will be so much more. The OH is my sister and this is her husband. She has left him and I have an idea of what kind of person he is but I would just like clarification. I never liked him that much, there was always something off about him. I'm just curious to see if what I feel is him matches what you Mumsnetters think.
I will show her this post when she is ready to see it.