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AIBU?

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To not want to do this (& find the approach a bit manipulative)?

10 replies

Thatbliddywoman · 21/01/2022 19:39

I work nights on a helpline.

I work every second weekend.

There are usually 2-3 people 'manning' the helpline most of the night, and they'll take their 'lunch' hours at either 00:00 or 01:00.
While only 1 person is present as the other is on lunch, someone else will have a 'sleeping' shift meaning if an important call comes, it can be transferred to them, freeing the one person working to take a next call.

Anyway my manager asked me a few weeks ago if I'd mind working one night 12 midnight -2 am on my weekend off, to ensure there were 2 people on the helpline. I wasn't doing much that weekend and agreed.

However yesterday he called a meeting with me and a colleague and encompassed in this meeting was 'and can you both please let me know which of your weekends off you want to cover 'lunches' next month please?

My colleague said 'sure I'll do x day on y weekend' straight away.

To be honest although I love my job, I was going to soon ask for a change of hours so that I don't have to do any weekends at all. I may not get that, sure but I certainly think this is wrong
The every second weekend isn't ideal but it's fine. Covering in the middle o the night on my 2 weekends a month off, isn't. I think it's actually quite bloody cheeky!
We get those weekends off and they should be 'OFF', off. Not 'off apart from you have to stay up late/get up in middle of night/not be able to go away/have family over/be tired/down a bottle of wine because you have to work from midnight to 2am(it is actually 230 am as often lunches run over if someone gets their lunch late due to being on a call).

How would you handle this?

AIBU?

For full disclosure, it is double time.
I do love my job, it is very relaxed, which makes me reluctant to change it but I am over qualified and could probably get something else without much ado.

OP posts:
cansu · 21/01/2022 19:48

Just tell him politely in writing that although you were able to help on x weekend you are not available to work on your off weekends. Then say nothing more.

Flocon · 21/01/2022 19:51

Yeah just say you're not available and you thought that was a one off

Redlorryyellowduck · 21/01/2022 19:57

Fuck that, it eats in to your entire weekend for all the reasons you've mentioned.
Just say you were happy to help as a one off, but no more. It should be really simple to resolve, just say no.

shivawn · 21/01/2022 19:59

I would tell him that I want to be able to make plans/have time away/get a good night's sleep on my days off so can't cover lunches unfortunately.

Thatbliddywoman · 21/01/2022 20:01

Thanks all. My manager is pretty good and I don't want to rock the boat especially as my close colleagues apparently think it is fine! But I don't want to even think about work on my weekends off, they're precious!

OP posts:
3scape · 21/01/2022 20:03

I'd put, in writing, that you will temporarily be available to cover this staffing situation but - ultimately you need a return to your free weekend and your agreed pattern of work.

CorneliusVetch · 21/01/2022 20:03

Your colleagues think it’s fine? I’m really surprised by that! It’s not fine and is any huge change to your working pattern as it prevents you using your weekend off. YANBU

Thatbliddywoman · 21/01/2022 20:42

I forgot to put that I work from home which is probably pretty crucial information, sorry!

OP posts:
Lollypop701 · 21/01/2022 22:27

No. No one wants to spend time off thinking about work. If colleagues want to do this that’s their choice. But most wouldn’t

oviraptor21 · 21/01/2022 22:30

Will you get paid for the extra hours?

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