Work since coming off maternity

[MrsNameChange12345]

Used to LOVE my job, I was enthusiastic and passionate, successful and would work ALL hours because I enjoyed it.

Just had first child and thoroughly enjoyed 9 months of maternity leave with my DS. I've started back 2 weeks ago and I F-ing HATE it!!! The slightest things are pissing me off big time. Staff. Hassle. Work load. Things that have changed. Everything. Literally just the thought of getting up knowing it's work today makes me roll my eyes! I was NEVER like this before.

Is this normal after mat leave or AIBU?

Normal. Took me a couple of months to care about the job again.

I'm currently going through this exact same thing. Returned at beginning of Jan and I just hate it. I used to be really passionate about my career and get a real sense of self esteem from my professional identity. Right now though, I just couldn't care less. All I want is to be with my baby. It's so strange and such an alien concept to me to not care about my job. I hope it passes in time. You're definitely not alone!

I also had 9 months of mat leave. I keep reminiscing - I miss those days so much even though some of them felt lonely and hard. I wish I'd embraced them and enjoyed them a little more.

@Sofiegiraffe it's horrible isn't it! It really isn't ME, I've always been career driven and focused and yet I just can't care less at the minute I wish I could have an easy going job with no hassle and stress! Even part time if I could, but can't afford to go part time 🙄
I even felt like telling my manager to do one today 🤣 I'd never have even considered this before I always wanted to please her so much and be the best! Ha
All I can think of is my little baby and how much I wish I could be with him. Especially as he's coming on so much now. Ahh it's horrible! I hope it passes and I find my enthusiasm over the next few weeks or I could lose my job! Then I would be in Shit Street ha 😳

@Sofiegiraffe you have a little March baby too ?😊

@MrsNameChange12345
Honestly I know how you feel - I could have written a lot of that myself! I feel so sad that I'm missing out on my baby, I just want to be with her myself instead of seeing photos of what she's been up to with the childminder.
She's an April baby, just turned 9 months.

Yeah I feel the same, really struggling with enthusiasm. I just don't care anymore. I went back in September and I still feel the same, not really what you wanted to hear. I have moments of being into my work but it doesn't last long.

I think it being January really doesn't help tbh. Lots of people cba at the moment. It will be double hard after mat leave.

It’s normal, priorities change when you have your own family. Work is no longer in the top spot and when you’d rather be with your child, it drops even further down the list.

See it for what it is, an income.

I felt like that. Like when something went went slightly wrong or someone annoyed me, my immediate thought was 'I'm missing out on my baby for this shit!'

It gradually got better as they got older and now I live my job again.

I went back after 5 months for financial reasons (breadwinner) and still resent every day I'm at work, even 3 years on!

5 years later and still fill that. A job just a job and I love my job as I deal with people and make a difference but since having DD 5 years ago the spark has gone for the job. Totally normal

Normal. I cried every morning the first few weeks back at work. Now I’m cool with it.

I felt like that for a few months. Then I started to love it again.

I've never gone back to full time though. Always stayed part time. So all of mine only did part-time nursery and nowadays I can do most school drop off and pick ups.