DD 5 still on my bed

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DD was 5 before Christmas, I am a single parent, she is an only child and she says she feels lonely.

She has her own bedroom which has all her stuff - clothing, toys school stuff.

She had a single divan at one point, and my brother replaced it last year with a bunk bed with no bottom bed, but she did not like it because it was too high and the ladder hurt her feet and she couldn't stand up in it, and I could very rarely get her to sleep in it as I could not physically lift her up there. So this month I bought her a midsleeper with a slide that she is absolutely delighted with.

I have to lie down with her and cuddle her until she sleeps and sometimes she still insists on sleeping in my bed.

My family think there should not be any reason why she is in my bed and I should be more strict, but I am just really struggling to get her out and I don't think it matters, she will stop when she wants to.

If you are both happy with her in your bed then carry on! My daughter is 8 and has only just started sleeping in her own bed, albeit not every night. Two of my closest friends have had the same with their children aswell. Honestly, she will go into her bed when she's ready.

I personally don't see the issue with it, you are her safe space and she wants to be with you. If it's working for you both and you don't have a problem with it then carry on doing what your doing, ignore what family say, it isn't any of their business.
It's unlikely she's going to be a teenager and still be in your bed.

My DS has just turned 6 and still creeps into my bed every night. Annoying as it is, especially when he wants to share my pillow, I let him get on with it. If it makes him feel safe and comfortable, what's the harm?

Also, how you parent your child is not your families business. Just shut them down whenever its brought up.

My ds(6) still comes in and sleeps with me sometimes and I love it. It won't be long until he doesn't want to come in to me or get comfort the same way, so I enjoy it while I can.

My daughter’s 10 and sleeps in with me every night. No big deal. As long as your daughter feels safe and happy that’s all that matters. Sod what anyone else thinks. She’ll go when she’s ready to.

Op my son is 8 and I still wake up most mornings to him in my bed because he's creeped in it during the night. Enjoy it it won't last forever.

Single parent here too, my DS2 is just about to turn 4 so a bit younger than your dd. He will go to sleep in his own bed most nights but he usually comes into mine at about 1ish. I really don't mind it and I'm not in a hurry to get him out, I get more sleep this way, YANBU

Snuggle that child if you want to. Why on earth would it be a bad thing?

7.5 Ds still appears in my bed at some point every night. I gave up resisting years ago and now just enjoy the cuddles.

If you don’t mind, then it’s no-one else’s business. If you do then you just have to bite the bullet, pick a day and stick to it from then on.

My 5 year old is in my bed. He sleeps well for it. He won't still be in my bed at 18 and I see no need to fix what works.

I cosleep with both of mine, one of whom is 5! We all love it. So happy and cozy. We don't live in the UK, though, so it's easier in terms of family pressure because it's veru much the 'done' thing to cosleep here (in fact, giving a child their own room is seen as cruel and irresponsible!). You tell your family to mind their own business, if you and DD are happy then it's absolutely fine!

I also think, imagine in twenty years time, you'll be missing these cuddles so much! 🥰

Nothing wrong with it.
My eldest did it till 8, my middle kid till 4 and my youngest is 5 and still does it.

Wouldn’t be for me but if you’re not bothered why care?!

What’s it got to do with your family?

If it works for you and makes her feel safe crack on! She won’t be doing it as a teenager, guaranteed!

My Ds8 sometimes gets into my bed still. I’m a single parent so there’s plenty of room to do so without disturbing me

It's nice. Enjoy it while it lasts.