AIBU or is my manager?

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I returned to work 6 months ago after a long term illness. I use to work full time but due to my illness I reduced my hours to part time.
At the moment we are short staffed and my manager asked if I could work some extra. I told her I would be fine to do the odd half day as extra as long as it is only a couple of times a month.
Later that day I overheard her talking to a colleague that I was willing to work extra hours but that I shouldn't over do it.
AIBU to think she was out of order talking to my colleague about this, I am very private when it comes to my health and try and not let it impact my work.

Is that colleague senior to you or in anyway in charge of handing out duties etc?

Because it sounds like she was saying that you could work but couldnt be overworked and the colleague needed to keep that in mind when asking you to do stuff etc.

It sounds like she was trying to be helpful and considerate.

Sounds like she was just relaying information that needed to be relayed, in a sensitive way?

I assume you think the colleague didn’t need to know anything at all, but isn’t it better they understand you’re working with the team and doing as much as you can than it is colleagues feeling resentful they’re asked to work more and you haven’t been?

I agree with the above.

She was looking out for you. Wise up

Has your absence been kept secret from colleagues? Do they know your hours changed a long time ago? Your boss can disclose your need for the working hours but not necessarily wat the reasons are.
Lighten up, be grateful you didn't overhear them being nasty

Jesus. If you've been off on long term sick, it's likely your colleagues are vaguely aware of your situation. Your manager actually sounds lovely.

Unless she actually said the reasons WHY you shouldn't overdo it, I think you're being unreasonable

What exactly are you upset about? Maybe you have left out some vital info, but surely ALL your colleagues know you have been out of the office, and presumably most of them have been sharing your work during that time. Or did you miss out a word in the OP and somehow your manager was slating you for not wanting to over do it. I'm stumped at what the problem is right now.

Unless the fact that you were ill and have now reduced your hours is a huge secret, I think her comments were completely reasonable and demonstrated that not only does she understand that they shouldn't ask too much of you but that she wants to make sure that no one else applies pressure.

There's a difference between telling someone specific details of your medical history and someone acknowledging that you have legitimate reasons for not being able to work more hours.

Sounds reasonable to me - she’s letting the other person know that you’re available to do some extra hours but not too many. That’s fair enough. I take it she didn’t disclose the nature of your illness (if your colleagues weren’t already aware)?

Maybe the colleague has been complaining about how short staffed you are and the manager is saying to her that you are willing to do a bit more but not too much.

There isn't a lot of context here but from what you have said she sounds thoughtful and considerate.

Your manager is treating you with care and respect. I assume she has not said why or what your health issue was. You are being treated like a human being, not a minion. This is not always the case with some managers....