Honest opinions please as I’m genuinely concerned about this.
I’ve just left my job of several years to move on to something else. I worked part-time hours, although the flexi pattern meant I worked with everyone. I got on well with the entire office, and usually when somebody leaves we go out for dinner on a Friday or Saturday night, arranged by the person leaving. I’ve arranged this and just asked everyone if they wanted to go out for dinner, but now I’m worried about what the typical set up with paying for it is.
There’s around 20 people coming (this weekend!) and I’ve no idea if I’m expected to pay for it or not. If I am, that’s fine it was me who organised it so I’m happy to pay it, but equally I don’t know if people will be expecting to pay themselves and if me paying for it will make everyone uncomfortable. It’s going to be a lot of money but if the right thing is for me to pay it, I’ll do it since it was me who organised it (but obviously I would rather not as it’s a lot of money!)
So,
If someone invited you out for dinner as a small celebration-type event before leaving their job, would you expect it to be payed for (YABU)? Or would you expect to pay your own way for it (YANBU)?
Usually it was payed for by work but over the last few months new management have come in and it’s now clear that old arrangement is no longer happening, so I can’t compare it to old leaving dinners as they were paid for.
Please give me your honest opinions or what you would expect