Hard work colleagues

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How do people deal with them?

We have a lovely team but one lady is just the most irritating person I have met in a while, to the point that because she is in the office full time others avoid it and work from home.

I am currently living alone so need that social contact, but not if it’s solely with her.

She is very very childish, nosey and will bring up your personal life (what she knows of it) in front of other colleagues (and sometimes in front of service users) to kind of look like you are pally pally, when we are not. She will take any opportunity to shoehorn in talking about herself and to shift focus back onto herself.

We went to a colleagues house for a leaving do and she looked up how much the house was worth on Zoopla beforehand, which made me worry she had done the same with mine.

Also obsessed with others food. I bought a really nice yoghurt which I put in the work fridge and left in there for a few days. Every day she asks me if I have/am going to eat it. Then on the Friday when we are about to leave she presents it to me before I leave (was in date until the following week) so I just took it home. Then on the Monday she asks if I have eaten it - wtf is that all about.

It’s such hard work fielding her constantly.

I have one. Close family friend. Has MH issues, under the NHS MH team. Asks us for advice in personal stuff, we try to help and doesn’t take anything on board. Misses sone MH nurse meetings.

The only full time member of the team, and she does less work than anyone else. Lots of mistakes, leaves stuff undone.

Cries, off sick lots of days. I understand shes unwell but she should either put her head down and work or go off sick. At least the rest of us know where we stand.

She’s bringing the rest of the team down with her constant moods and irritability.

Cant stand it.

She does sound challenging. She’s almost certainly unhappy to behave like this - or do you think she isn’t very bright, or just struggles socially??

Anyway, I think the best thing is to take a distanced approach like you are dealing with a gormless older child. (Thanks Molly - but actually the yogurt’s fine till next week, so you can put it back). If you don’t engage with her personally, she will probably also get bored with trying to engage with you.