Insane connection with colleague

[Han19877]

Met my new colleague today and oh gosh, we just have this intense connection. I could listen to him all day and we have so many things in common. One of those I could sit and talk to you for hours situations!

Not ideal because at work! Should I just let it go because professionalism?!

Are you both single and is one managing the other?

More info needed.

Is either one of you in a relationship?

Whoa Nelly.

Both single and no one managing the other.

It just threw me off guard because I’m not someone who ‘falls hard’ usually/ever. But I feel compelled to be around this man!

Gosh reading this back I sound like a nutter but I have dated many people and never got that ‘bam’ moment.

That's a bit intense considering you've only just met today. I get the instant spark, but falling hard is a bit full-on. And I say this as someone who fell hard for her colleague and later married him (and divorced him... but that's not for here).

@TheVanguardSix I 100% agree. It’s weird. I don’t know how to explain it and I’m not that sort of person normally. Usually my friends laugh at me for being aloof/hard to get 😬

Though you know what, OP? I did have this with my first husband. I've had 2 and I'm stopping there. No more!
But with my first, it was like a thunderbolt hit me. We met through work and it was just instant. I felt it. He felt it. I felt that he felt it. He felt that I felt it. It was wild. The biggest love of my life really.

@TheVanguardSix

Though you know what, OP? I did have this with my first husband. I've had 2 and I'm stopping there. No more! But with my first, it was like a thunderbolt hit me. We met through work and it was just instant. I felt it. He felt it. I felt that he felt it. He felt that I felt it. It was wild. The biggest love of my life really.

Love this. It was the same with my DH. And the moments of madness like this cannot be real? We're 15 years in.

Got for it Op! But not tomorrow - that would be weird. Play it cool and get to know him!

I felt exactly like this in 2001. 2 months after we met, we moved in together…we’ve been together for 21 years this year and married for 18 with 2 x DC 😍

Life is short, go for it!!

Enjoy it!

This was me and DH. I knew in the first week. Together for over 20 years now 😁

Are you ovulating?

^ can on,you type that on MN

^ can ONLY type that on MN

@Han19877

Gosh reading this back I sound like a nutter but I have dated many people and never got that ‘bam’ moment.

You’re not dating him and you’ve met him once! Don’t go too goggle eyed. He might be an one finger typer or WORSE, put fish or eggs in the office microwave.

Don't do it at work. It isn't worth the potential grief. Also what is your works policy on this?

I knew instantly, the moment I met dh. Nearly 22 years later, married for over 20. When you know, you know. If there's nothing to hold you back (by way of other commitments) then go for it!

[quote Han19877]@TheVanguardSix I 100% agree. It’s weird. I don’t know how to explain it and I’m not that sort of person normally. Usually my friends laugh at me for being aloof/hard to get 😬[/quote]
It's your fanny talking. Step back , gather information, engage your brain. Then, if both single, and no seniority issues in any way proceed with the usual fun and caution.

Got for it Op! But not tomorrow - that would be weird.

You know, years and years ago, 23 actually, we teased my brother mercilessly because he met this woman and it was instantaneous 'must spend my life with you' fireworks. They had a first date where he told her he loved her over lunch. My other brother and I were like, "YOU WHAT??? You told her 'I love you' over lunch? Oh, you will NEVER hear from her again!"

Well, one of the most poignant moments of my life was telling that story at my brother's funeral last year while looking at that very woman and their 3 kids. He obviously heard from her again and lived to tell the tale. And what a great, great, great love they had. And they experienced that beautiful sucker-punch that you've experienced today, OP.

I feel a bit envious, OP! I'm 50, twice divorced, and rough 'round the edges now, but heavens, when you're instantaneously lovestruck, it is so weird and wild and wonderful. It's too crazy to ignore it.

@TheVanguardSix that’s a very sweet story.

Sometimes it hits you out of nowhere like a truck!

Get up early, put on your favourite clobber, do you hair and makeup nicely and ask him for a drink after work!

This happened with DH and I. I’d completely sworn off men but he brought out this bizarrely confident side in me. Go for it if you like him!

@TheVanguardSix

That is a brilliant story that illustrates the whole unpredictable incredibleness of life.

Yes, well, maybe don’t plan the wedding until you’ve identified whether he has this amazing instant ‘connection’ with any other women in the building!