I’ve been married 3 years, with my husband for a couple years long and we have one DS together. I’m so unhappy and I don’t know what to do.
I can’t think of anything I like about this man anymore. Over all the last few years (and this started before I got married, what an idiot I am) he has become increasingly more nasty towards me. Most of the time I think that’s what it is, he’s nasty, it’s emotional abuse. But then sometimes I think I’m overreacting? I guess I’ve been waiting for one final straw, one act that is unforgivable for me to be able to say that’s it.
He’s never hit me, for the record. But he is like a black cloud to be around, his moods take over the whole house and there’s no escaping them. I try to keep as quiet as possible so that he doesn’t take it out on me. He swears in every sentence. He calls people the c word, f this, I haven’t even had an f ing shower today, etc.
He tells me I give him the bare minimum sex wise. He doesn’t say I can’t go on a night out with my friend, but I haven’t been on one since we’ve been together because he makes me feel like it wouldn’t be worth the hassle. He cut my ‘hen night’ short because he was in a mood with his sister and wouldn’t stop texting me (it was only afternoon tea). When we first started dating he made me fly home from a girls holiday (my first ever) because I had liked a photo of another man (prior to us being together).
He is not all bad. When he’s lovely to our son, my heart melts and I don’t want my son to be away from him, he adores him. But I just don’t think I have any love or forgiveness left in me. I’m also scared about practicalities like will I be able to survive financially on my own, where would I live?
I’m so scared and upset. I don’t know what to do.