I've now known B for around 5 years now, our children are at the same school, we were really close a few years ago, to now barely speaking once a month.
I helped her through her break up, helped her move home, looked after her kids so many times... now I find myself barely seeing her, when she does initiate contact she will phone me for a catch up and arrange a lunch day, I now tell her to organise it as I know 9 times out of 10 she will cancel on me or ask to rearrange to another day so she can change the bookings etc.
She recently got engaged & called me instantly to tell me adding - because I wanted you to hear it from me as one of my close friends, and she jumped right into plans, she told me I could be invited to the daytime meal but she was really limited on numbers so i'd just be coming by myself and then my partner (of 23 years who she knows very well I might add) could come in the evening, but she was worried I wouldn't know anybody there. Or the other option was to go to the church in the day, then leave for the afternoon and go back to the evening around 7ish. I told her id go in the day initially but the more I think about it I think I'll end up going just to the evening event with a few others who were invited.
My best friend has no found out she is off work for 2 weeks (works in a school setting so really hard for her to get term time off at all) and has asked to rearrange my 30th birthday trip from 2 years ago which was cancelled due to Covid. This means that were not going to be paying through the nose for the holiday we were due to go on in the summer term time.
So I have this choice to go on holiday for my delayed birthday trip or attend the evening event from a friend. AIBU for potentially upsetting a friend for prioritising a holiday over her evening invite?