to get the xmas blues?

[MaeBee]

i am, as usual, feeling both overwhelmed and underwhelmed by christmas. i opted out of doing presents etc with my own family about 15 yrs ago, but now we have a child i do go to my dp's folks. they are really lovely but i feel guilty they spent so much on me. my dp does all the shopping for his family from both of us and they wouldn't for a minute think badly of me that i don't buy stuff seperately for them. i have a strict £5 limit rule and only buy for dp and ds. next year i want to ask them to only my ds and dp stuff. i find it a bit infantilising, cos i don't have a fraction of the money to spend, and i don't want to either!
am looking forward to xmas being over and getting back to toddler groups! dp out this afternoon and i've got to find an activity for me and my toddler. dp all cross at me for being tired and unwarm. i just want a bit of alone time where i don't have to be cheery and ho ho ho!
tell me you feel like this too at christmas?!

yep, i feel all unsettled too. was off sick for a week before xmas so just feel out of sorts, suppose i'm more of a creature of habit than i'd care to admit. a member of my team was due in work today but i told her i'd come into the office instead, just want a day of 'normality' and reason to get out of bed before we push on with the rest of the xmas break, maybe this'll kick me into some sort of action rather than just mooching round the house. i'm not good when i don't have a 'plan' for the day and with being poorly not much planning has been done. xmas was a bit subdued and our trip up north to see my family had to be cancelled so all in all feeling a bit underwhelemed by xmas. ok, whinge over, could be worse...

I feel quite low, too. My DH (who is a lovely DH, btw, so don't want to moan too much!) has been laid up with flu all over Xmas, which means I have been entertaining, cooking, cleaning, looking after our DS and generally playing 'hostesss with the mostess' all on my own. My DH is self employed and works long hours, so was looking forward to us having some time together, but I have ended up feeling quite lonely, yet at the same time wishing everyone would just go away and leave me alone!? (work that one out). We moved into a new house in October and have been renovating it, but it is not even a quarter done yet and looks like a building site, which is really wearing me down, too. I also had a m/c in October and have felt so physically low since then - haven't been taking care of myself, really, and it's left me feeling lethargic and very flat. So, moan moan moan...I know how you feel though :-)

thanks for joining me in a xmas moan! i certainly don't feel depressed, just, well, grumpy!
i think its perfectly reasonable to both feel lonely AND wish everyone would f off and leave you alone! those two feelings often coincide for me.

I have the post xmas blues, I liken it to an orgasm, once its climaxed you don't want any more of it at all