to be feeling weird about the fact that ex's new baby boy has a similar name to my dd

[PirateInaPeartree]

My dd5 is called by the name of that very talented singer who won x factor last year.

The name means lioness.

ex dh's bro, (they live in germany)and his wife have had a little boy over xmas. Just found out today he is called Leander.

I like the name. Really do, but its meaning is the f ing same, but a boy version. And shortened its the same ---Lee, as dd's. I also know its a greek mystical name, which does coem up in searches, yet hey, it souns the same in many ways.

I think its wierd tbh. Ok we live in different countries, but tbh I guess i just think there are so very many names they could have had, let alone the same letter, and the same sound etc...

oh and yes they also pee me off as they didn't even send dd a card for xmas. she is theri only niece. I expected a card tbh, in recognition.

I can understand but it IS unreasonable. But we are all unreasonable about our kids and protecting their 'specialness' - and their name is really about their specialness, isn't it?

But listen, the reality is that you did not cross their minds during their name choosing. And they did not choose the name to hurt or damage you in any way.

And about the card, well, if you've just had a baby, sending cards to folks is not going to be something you are going to give a fuck about.

So don't read more into it than is there, send them a congrats card and forget about it. There's no snub to you at all, I betcha.

I don't think the names are that similar - Leandar is the female version of Leander surely?? I had a girl roommate at uni caller Leanda or Leandar.

Leona is different.

Aww, Pirate - no wonder, you are feeling sensitive.

People are very funny about names - I have exactly the same ones as my cousin; my aunt stole "my" name when she and my Mum were pregnant at the same time. I was named for a paternal Great-Aunt; my aunt - the name-stealer - is my Mum's sister! My Mum was so furious, she still went on to use it.

One of my brothers gave two sons, from different relationships, the same name - now that I think is weird.

Would their pronunciation make the name sound totally different? Is there any chance they might use a completely unexpected contraction, as in the end of the name?

Re the card thing, I am 21 weeks pg, still vomiting on a daily basis and absolutely knackered. I wrote all my cards this year, but kept forgetting to post them till it was too late! I certainly didn't intend to snub anyone deliberately. Maybe it's the same with this new Mum? As generally most men leave all that sort of thing up to us anyway!

I sympathise with the feeling weird - when DD was born DH wanted to call her Alexandra, but my sister has an Alexander, and I thought it would be confusing, so it's her middle name.

Five months later DH's sister had a baby & called him Alexander - so we have the confusion anyway. I was a bit annoyed (especially as SIL knew why we hadn't called DD Alexandra) - but at the same time I knew I was being unreasonable.

Twelve years later, SIL had her fourth child & called him Christopher - the name of my sister's oldest!

So now DD & DS have two cousins called Christopher and two called Alexander - oh and SIL's husband and my DB1 have the same name too!

I dont understand why people get wound up about names. What is the problem?

dd2 has a unique name, it is an archaic feminine version of ds1's name. I would LOVE to know that there were other little girls with the same name now.

i do think it is a bit odd - i agree with you

you did choose a lovely name and maybe they could not help themsleves

i love the name tom even though it is so popular and a friend's child is called that - it is soooo tempting when you love a name!